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3 days before she took revenge (rant)

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27 Sep 12 #358275 by u6c00
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3 days is how long it took before she made some spiteful and controlling action, peeing all over the good work that we had done in reaching an agreement.

She is allowed to put son in nursery on Mondays and Tuesdays, I''m allowed to put him in nursery on Thursdays and Fridays. He has an NEG place (15 free hours per week). The previous arrangement was that he was in a nursery with her Monday (6 hours), Tuesday (3 hours) and Thursday (6 hours).

Advised her by email yesterday of the nursery that I intended to register our son in for 6 hours per week on a Friday and invited her to go and view the nursery.

Today I get an email telling me that she has increased his Tuesday to 6 hours with her, thus using 12 of the 15 hours that he can go to nursery leaving me with only 3 hours.

The nursery that I wanted to put him in (outstanding on Ofsted) will not accept him for only 3 hours per week as it''s disruptive and doesn''t give him the chance to get accustomed to the place and be settled. Now I''m stuck for finding him a nursery.

Of course I know what she''s trying to do - by reducing the number of hours I can put him in nursery to an impossibly small number I won''t be able to get him settled before the final hearing. I tell her I plan to put him in nursery for 6 hours and the very next day she phones phones ''her nursery'' to make that impossible!

So tomorrow I will be on the phone to LEA''s trying to find out what happens if there''s a dispute over what hours he does where.

Need to email the ex, contact the other nursery and potentially try to find a way to make this work.

I knew that this new found spirit of cooperation was too good to last.

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02 Oct 12 #358839 by Sjw19850141
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Could you not come to some arrangement with the nursery? I know that when I needed the odd couple of hours extra they were very flexible and allowed me to pay for that extra time only? Not ideal but something to think about x

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