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She''s having my Child Statemented. Can i stop this

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30 Sep 12 #358565 by hervinder
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Me and my ex wife have three children and my youngest aged 8 is eplileptic, before seperation there was never any concern with regards to his behavior or concentration. The school also have never had any issues with regards to his behavior, we''ve also had a social services assessment done who also noted no concerns with regards to my youngest.

Whilst waiting for a contact hearing she is allowing me to see the chidren at a contact centre, my youngest is the only one who attends, She keeps saying that the other two dont want to see me, but they have told social services when interviewed alone that they want to see me.

My wife took my youngest to the GP and had him reffered to a clinical psychologist who has also noted that the child does not need specialist services.

On the letter i received from the clinical psychologist stated that a paediatrition from our local hospital is "apparently" supporting my wife in her application to have my younged statemented. This is the first i''m hearing of this, there is nothing wrong with him, he''s just a normal 8 year old boy.

What can i do to stop her from doing this? Surely this would be classed as a significant decision and i should have some input. I dont know why she''s doing this, maybe she feels it would help her in the contact hearing.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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30 Sep 12 #358567 by Action
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From personal experience, if your child is having any difficulties at school then being ''statemented'' is a big bonus. I have a dyslexic son (now grown up) but he was borderline to be statemented so wasn''t. His education would have been so much better if he had been as there would have been funding for more resources and more one-to-one help.

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30 Sep 12 #358568 by hervinder
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If there was any problems with regards to him having difficulties at school i would have no problems in getting him help. But the school have never had any concerns with him at all.

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30 Sep 12 #358570 by Action
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Sounds very odd in that case. Are the school supporting the idea of getting him statemented? I can''t see it getting very far if they don''t agree.

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30 Sep 12 #358572 by BoysMum
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Hi,

Your child being statemented is not easily done. The child will be assessed and monitored within School, and the decision to be statemented will be based solely on the assessments. Therefore, it is not a decision that your ex can control. It certainly wouldn''t help or hinder an application for a contact order.

My child may have to be statemented which will be very beneficial to his education as the School will receive funding to offer him resources and one on one help if required. He has only just started School, and I was advised that although he has very clear needs, the assessments which were done while he was at Nursery School, is not sufficient evidence to have him statemented.

I would not worry. If your child is statemented, it will be very well documented and there will be evidence to support the decision.

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30 Sep 12 #358573 by hervinder
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The school have never raised any concerns so i would say they are not supporting her in this.

As this is a significant decision and i have full parental responsibility i want to know what i can do to stop this? shouldnt i have some kind of input in this?

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30 Sep 12 #358574 by Action
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I don''t understand why you would want to stop it but have you discussed the matter with the school?

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