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She''s having my Child Statemented. Can i stop this

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30 Sep 12 #358631 by carer
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Hi Hervinder,

As others have said - having a statement is a positive thing for your child. Lots of Medical Professionals will say a child doesnt need it - that is because they worry about stigmatising a child who has a medical condition (completely out of date attitude) - so I am not surprised that no-one has put this forward as a need for your child.

Having a statement for your child will open doors for him/her in terms of educational needs as School will receive funding for extra help - so I would think about this carefully. If it is deemed your child meets the criteria then he/she will get a 1:1 at School - will most likely get someone to help on School trips (including residential trips as most teachers wont get involved with medical care) - will be allowed ''mitigating circumstances'' through exams (including GCSE''S) if he/she is taken ill during this time. Probably be given a computer to aid with homework. Surely you would want your child to be fully included in all aspects of his/her School-life.

Your Ex will have to show how your childs work in School can be affected by the condition - so it isnt an easy thing to obtain at all. If your Ex is struggling with things at home and this makes life easier for them all I dont see why there should be a problem with it. Your Ex wont ''gain'' anything in terms of getting at you - this is purely for the child''s benefit and that has to be a good thing.

It is notoriously difficult to get a child statemented and the rules are just about to change (not sure of the date) which will mean that there will be a requirement for the School and parents to attend mediation to try to resolve issues without the need for a statement - but the system as it stands wont need mediation - just lots of forms to fill in and then a decision is made - then there is a right to appeal if the answer is no which it mostly is first time round.

I know you must feel left out of making these decisions and I understand it would make you feel upset - but try to think of the child and what is best for him/her and if possible talk with your Ex about her concerns - you never know it could be something you could both do together!

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30 Sep 12 #358667 by jslgb
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30 Sep 12 #358673 by carer
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www.bdadyslexia.org.uk/about-dyslexia/parents/staments.html

Hi jslgb,

A parent can apply for statementing without School being involved (see link above) - in fact it is more common for a parent to apply than a School as it does take a lot of effort and time - and Schools just dont have the time sadly. My child is disabled and we know many families in the same position who have applied for a statement without any help from anyone - and been refused - but all gone to appeal and a large percentage go on to succeed.

It is not easy - but it is do-able as long as you are prepared to provide lots of information and can show that your child is at a disadvantage from his/her peers.

The OP''s Ex can apply if she wants - without anyone else being involved.

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