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She''s having my Child Statemented. Can i stop this

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30 Sep 12 #358575 by BoysMum
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Of course you will be kept informed, but there are many assessments and monitoring sessions that will be done within the classroom/school setting. Neither you, or your ex will be involved in this process.

If after these sessions, it is felt that your child has extra needs and would benefit from being statemented, then you and your ex will have a meeting and everything will be explained to you.

You will find that being statemented is generally based a lot on financial terms. It is not something they do without very good evidence that your child requires extra help and support in the classroom setting. Even if you and your ex were in agreement that you wanted your child statemented, it''s not that simple. They will only statement, upon good solid evidence that your child needs it, and it is a very long and slow process. I believe that they will need 6-12 months of monitoring and assessments to even consider statementing a child.

You could make an appointment to see the SENCO at your child''s School, who will be able to talk you through the process step by step, and answer any questions you have.

I hope this puts your mind at rest.

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30 Sep 12 #358576 by Elphie
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I understand you being upset at not being involved & your consent not being requested, however while a parents view must be sought when a school is applying for a statement, there is nothing to stop the school applying without the consent of a parent in theory as it is about getting the funding in place to fully support the child''s educational needs. once the application is put in, the local authority send notice to the parents and requests their opinion of their child''s needs. So, if she does submit an application your input will be requested by the local authority before the decision is made. So with this in mind, your ex wife doesn''t need your permission.

But really, why do you want to stop her? If he does need the support, you should be supporting her in getting him that help. If he doesn''t need the support, then he will not be granted a statement, you wife is simply wasting herr time. Either way, your son having a statement will not affect your contact with him, it is about his education and what happens in school.

Anyway, filling in the application form for a requesting a statement is more complex and requires more paper evidence than filling in a form E, so if your wife is doing it alone, good luck to her on the one! :blink:

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30 Sep 12 #358577 by hervinder
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Thank you for that response and it does reassure me that she cant just go ahead and do this.

Before seperation he was fine, just a normal 8 yr old boy. Since seperation three months ago i only him for the first time last week at a supervised contact centre. If his behavior has deteriorated i would say it was due to the seperation and not seeing his father.

The clinical Psychologist has put in his notes that my wife was given advice on attending parenting courses which suggest to me that she is the one who is struggling with him.

Of course i will be using all of this at the forthcoming contact hearing.

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30 Sep 12 #358580 by Elphie
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Also, just to further reassure - how are you getting copies of the Clinical phsychologists'' notes? I''m assuming your wife isn''t passing it on to you directly as it doesn''t show her in a great light. So if professionals are sending you notes, this is a good thing, as it shows your ex is not side stepping you and preventing you from having official post sent to you, whether by her wishes or not it is obviously on record somewhere that you are an involved father and as such, official notifications are being copied to you.

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30 Sep 12 #358584 by hervinder
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thanks for your comments elphie

Just to point out if i felt my son needed to be statemented i would fully support my ex wife in her application. But as the school, gp and clinical physchologist have not seen any reason for concern i cannot support this. I still feel that she is the one struggling with him and should attend a parenting course as advised.

As for seeing the documentation i had to go through a very painful and costly process of getting medical records of all three of my children from the GP surgery, they were reluctant to give these to me and i had to send letters from my solicitors before they eventually agreed to let me have them.

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30 Sep 12 #358586 by Saffs
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Usually before the process of statementing begins a child is placed on an IEP (Individual Education Plan) where they are assessed and targets are set and reviewed. The statementing process is lengthy and a child will have had to have gone through the process of School Action and then School Action Plus before statementing is agreed. The SENCO (Special Educational Needs Co-ordinator) will be the best person to speak to at a school. Even if a paediatrician supports a statement it does not mean that the LEA will grant it as there will need to be a lot of evidence regarding the support your child already receives in school.
Saying that, if your child is granted a statement it can only be a good thing as they will be given additional 1:1 support and it can help with the transition to secondary school.

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30 Sep 12 #358588 by SilverFir
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Just to add to this ...

There is nothing to stop you using the internet to find out where your son''s LEA Statutory Assessment team is based, and giving them a call to find out what stage the application is at.

As others have said, being assessed doesn''t automatically lead to a Statement. But if a Statement is produced, it''s because the assessment has determined that your son needs additional support, and it provides the framework for ensuring he receives that support.

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