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Ex wants me to increase the evenings I have kids

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5 years 5 days ago #468267 by VillaDad2012
Dear All.

Ex and I have been separated for over 3 years now, and happily shared responsibility for the kids, with me having the kids for 1 night a week and every other Friday from 6pm through to Sunday at 6pm.

She has now met a new partner and says the weekend is too restrictive and wants me to keep the kids overnight Sunday as well.

My ex applied for the Decree Nisi last year, and this we issued in Dec.

She has since not applied for the Decree Absolute, and is saying that before she discusses a financial settlement (which she wants 70/30 split from the marital home equity and for her to remain in the property - as she cannot get a mortgage in her own name), she wants me to agree to have the kids for the extra evening (Sunday to take the kids to school Monday)..

Do the courts have the power to insist on the non residing parent having the kids..? I appreciate that some Fathers out there are not as lucky as me, and that they don''t get to see their kids at all...but given my personal life/working situation, having the kids longer is not a possibility..

Look forward to your thoughts.

Thanks
VillaDad.

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5 years 5 days ago #468268 by naziam
Your post is like the exact opposite of most post''s on here, no the court cannot insist on you having the kids.

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5 years 5 days ago #468269 by VillaDad2012
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Thanks Naziam,

Please don''t get me wrong..I would love to have my kids more, but personal/work circumstances dictate other wise.

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5 years 5 days ago #468272 by Forseti
So where exactly in your list of priorities do you place your children?

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5 years 5 days ago #468276 by MrsMathsisfun
Replied by MrsMathsisfun on topic Re:Ex wants me to increase the evenings I have kids
Its not always easy to arrange childcare alternate weeks Forseti, it doesnt mean the op doesnt put his children first.

Could you return children later sundays or early monday morning?

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5 years 5 days ago #468279 by pendlewitch
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MrsMathsisfun wrote:

Its not always easy to arrange childcare alternate weeks


It''s not "childcare" - it''s parenting.

VillaDad2012 - what is so important in your personal life that you can''t have your own children 2 additional nights each month?

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5 years 4 days ago #468292 by MrsMathsisfun
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It is called child care if you have to work and need to drop a child somewhere before work.

It may well be that the op has to rent a weekend property to see his children then a Monday to Friday property for him to work. Therefore wouldnt have a suitable place to accommodate the children on a Sunday evening

Life isnt black and white. Why is the RP allowed to change the agreement due to their personal reasons but not the nrp.

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