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4 years 1 hour ago #485039 by Louise34
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Hi

I need some advice. Dealing with my ex is very difficult its his way or no way.

I have recently moved with my children and ex has moved into my house. My problem is I have moved out of my current doctors area and need to change doctors. I have joint parental responsibility with my ex but I have the majority of the care. So I will need to change the children's doctor as everyone (including current doctor)agrees. My ex has gone into current doctors and said he has joint responsibility (but doubt he has told them children spend the majority of time with me) and he should be told of everything.

I take them to the majority of appointments and take time off when they are sick etc.

I think I am in for another difficult argument with him - any advice or helpful suggestions?

Once I move doctors I will give them his name and address and any time children are sick I tell him and will continue to do so. I will give him details of doctors how to make appointments etc.

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4 years 20 minutes ago #485040 by rubytuesday
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You might find this useful -

Mr Justice Wall (as he then was) provided a useful pocket guide to parental responsibility in a footnote to his judgement on A v A [2004] EWHC 142 (Fam). It is really important to understand this; abuse of these principles leads to endless misery and unnecessary litigation.

1. Decisions either parent can take independently of the other without consultation or notification:

· How the children are to spend their time during contact periods;

· Personal care for the children;

· Activities undertaken;

· Religious and spiritual activities;

· Continuing to take medicine prescribed by a GP.


2. Decisions either parent can take independently but of which they must inform the other:


· Medical treatment in an emergency;

· Visits to a GP and the reasons for them;

· Booking holidays or taking the child abroad during contact time.

3. Decisions which must only be taken following consultation:


· Selecting a school and applying for admissions;

· Contact rotas during school holidays;

· Planned medical and dental treatment;

· Stopping medication prescribed by a GP;

· Attendance at school functions (so the parents may avoid meeting each other wherever possible);

· Age at which children are allowed to watch age-restricted DVDs and video games.

So you can take your children to the GP and agree to medical treatment without the other parent's involvement/consent, but you should inform him of those medical matters. Of course, a lot depends on how old your children are - once they are \"Gillick Competent\" then if the individual child does not wish for one or both parents to know about a medical treatment or consultation, then the doctor is bound to keep patient confidentiality.

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3 years 11 months ago #485041 by Louise34
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Thank you for this but I do need some clarification (call it lack of sleep and brain not working).

Can I change the children's doctors, of course I will ask their dad but the past has proven this will not be easy. I already go out of my way to take them to school as he won't agree to changing. It appears if he said no its no but if I don't agree I have to end up going with his way for peace.

Has anyone had experience of this in practice?

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3 years 11 months ago #485042 by rubytuesday
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The short answer is, yes you can change your children's GP on your own, just provide your ex with the new details.

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3 years 11 months ago #485043 by Louise34
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Thank you so much and sorry for being dim ( it was a long night with a sick child)

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3 years 11 months ago #485046 by rubytuesday
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You weren't \"dim\" - I wasn't very clear :dry:

Hope your wee one feels better, and you manage to get some rest tonight.

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