Hi, I am wondering if you can help. Long story short, 1 child, I am the main carer, child visits the other parent every other weekend + 1 night in that week and few hours the week after.
Court order says that child should be collected by the other parent from school
in the days is having the child.Should this not be possible due to illness or unavoidable reasons then an adult should do this.
I have emailed the school and asked them to notify me when/if there was an instance when this happened and whether it has been a request for the details in my childs personal folder to be changed.
As a response the headteacher said that they cannot provide me with this information after seeking legal advice
. Copy of court order had been provided to school
Surely as a mother I should be kept informed about who my child goes with from or to school regardless of the fact that we as parents don't get on. What about things that happen at school ie accident, do I need to be informed by school if the other parent collects child that day and stays away from main residence
for a number of days and fails to notify me about such thing?
What are my rights?
No, you don't need to be informed. Both parents have equal Parental Responsibility & their rights only come into play when they are needed to exercise that responsibility. That means each parent is responsible for everyday care of a child, including delegating childcare to someone else, when the child is with them. Only important issues such as changing a child's name, changing schools important medical decisions require consultation.
Different history & different customs. Even between other EU countries there are differences. In the UK the focus is on the interests of the child rather than the rights of parents & both parents have equal parental responsibility. Ideally parents would work together, communicate & resolve problems between themselves constructively. Unfortunately that doesn't always happen & it boils down to a balance of power.
My query is really with regards to the duties that school
has towards me as a main carer of the child. If I asked them an information about who is collecting the child other than the other parent and if details have been changed should they just dismiss me?
The other parent doesn't keep me informed about accidents or things like that but school should, knowing that the communucation between us as parents is not good. I found out about an accident when I collected my child from school seeing the marks on his body. The accident slip had been removed from bag by the other parent so for several days I did not know about this incident.