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3 years 9 months ago #487384 by Jalisia
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Hi Wikis

Please could anyone give me some advice regarding shared parenting:

I have four children the eldest at home (23) graduated from uni summer 2016 and has been encouraged by his father to live at home (rent free) and work in the family business - much to my horror as he is basically a dogsbody - I believe this to be a tactical move on STBXs part.

My second son is at uni back during holidays for next 4 years and my youngest are 17 and 12.

Basically my job has always revolved around the children school hours, flexible working from home, term time only etc - whilst I accept there will be a need to maximise my income my STBX maintains he requires shared parenting:

He has had one weeks holiday a year for the past four years.
Leaves the house at 7:15 and returns 6:15 pm six days a week
If asked to cover my youngest child's sports activities on the weekend he rings up another parent as he is not able to - obviously I feel guilty to do this if my eldest are not around.
If I need to go somewhere my youngest have to go to his place of work and sit at a desk with their ipad.

He argues that my 17 year old daughter could look after my youngest after school until he returns from work and during holidays etc.

Quite frankly I am disgusted by this as it was always agreed that my job would revolve around being there inset days, after school etc I really do believe his own agenda is his priority and also not having to pay child maintenance requested.

I have devoted my whole life to my children and really feel why should my 12 year old be treated any differently to the others.

Really would appreciate some guidance on this.

Many thanks in advance

Jalisia u:unsure:

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3 years 9 months ago #487387 by Jalisia
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Would just like to add my 17 year old has plans to go to university Sept 2018 so would not be around as stbx states to childmind - in my mind this is when you see young teenagers rooming the streets, getting into trouble etc

This has upset me so much :(

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