My 10yo daughter was scalded in an accident last week whilst vaporising Vicks from a bowl of boiling water, resulting in second degree burns, which has given me concern for a couple of reasons. Firstly, the care which she received following the accident was lacking and secondly, the delays in notifying me of the accident.
Rather than seeking emergency medical attention for my daughter's scalding, my ex wife got her ready for school
where a paramedic is a parent to seek their opinion as to whether the injury should be seen by A&E. This directly led to a delay of around two hours in Eavie being treated. I understand that my ex wife may have panicked or been in shock, but our children's health and wellbeing must be the priority in situations such as this.
My daughter has had this cold for over two years, So I will be making a doctors appointment for this and our younger daughter's verruca (which she has also had for some time) while I have contact
Secondly, my daughter asked to see me while she was in A&E, but was told that I would be too busy at work to see her. I will never be too busy to speak with our children or too busy to be with them in situations such as this.
My ex wife has told me that she was acting in our daughter's best interests by delaying telling me about the accident until 13:44, but by that time she had not only been treated in A&E, but had spoken with my ex wife's mother and been back in school for almost an hour.
I hardly saw my children for three years while my ex wife refused contact
. Thankfully I have regular contact now, but we're still terrible at jointly parenting our children. I've asked my ex wife to consider mediation
to improve our working relationship a number of times, but each request has gone unanswered.
My children flourish when they are with my partner and I and I'm at the point where I'm thinking that the persistent failure to communicate and the shocking treatment of my daughter's scalding last week suggests that they would be better with us. I don't want to put them through that upheaval just now (my eldest is struggling slightly and in year 5), but I need them to be cared for effectively and need to be kept informed.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can broach this with my ex wife?