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3 years 1 month ago #495572 by Kjiwani1
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I have been in touch with the CMS as my ex-wife is still trying to claim payments for the 2nd child who is supposedly going to Uni as she is 18.


I have no contact with my children as their mother has brainwashed them against me. So, I have no way of knowing if my daughter will be going to uni in Sept or living away from home.

We had a court order drawn up in 2015 when I divorced my ex and it stated that I would pay maintenance until the 1st child reaches 18 and finishes f/t education.

I have mentioned all of the above to the CSA and have it writing from last yr when my daughter made contact with me and mentioned that she will need money for uni costs etc. But... they don't want to see me.

The CSA initially provided me with written confirmation that i will only pay for one child but since then my wife is trying to claim for both still as mentioned above.

What can i do, as I think my ex is just trying to get more money out of me but I have no way of knowing if my child has attained the grades for uni or leave home because of no ctc?

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Karim:(

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3 years 1 month ago #495578 by WYSPECIAL
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Your post is confusing as you mention both CSA and CMS and also a Court Order.

If you are paying via CMS (or CSA) and your daughter has just finished an A level standard course then your assessment will end first Monday in September unless she does another full time non advanced course. CMS is not payable at university level.

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3 years 1 month ago #495579 by Kjiwani1
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Thank you.

Sorry, I meant CMS.

The Consent order was put in place in 2015.
since then I have been making regular monthly payments as instructed.

It's only recently i.e last month is when I contacted the CMS regarding my legal position and to find out how much i will need to pay per month.

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Karim

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3 years 1 month ago #495582 by spinit
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The court order is over twelve months old so the CMS has authority over the situation. You contacted the CMS for an assessment and they wrote back saying you need only pay for one child. From what you have written it is only your ex-wife who is telling you that you need to continue paying her.

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3 years 1 month ago #495583 by Kjiwani1
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Hi.
Thank you.
Based on the info which I had rcvd from my daughter when I did contact her last year.
She mentioned about going to Uni. However, as I previously indicated I do not know if this is fact because of not having any real contact with the children.

Therefore, I contacted the CMS a few weeks back to inform them of them that my daughter could possibly be going to Uni as she is 18 yrs now.
They wrote back with a payment schedule based on me just paying for my son who is 15 Yrs.

I have since rcvd a letter from the CMS and talked to them today. They are saying that I could still be liable to pay for my daughter. The question is if she is actually going to Uni. If she is then I will not pay for both children. I'm sure they need to ask the question to my ex about this and obtain proof.
As she is claiming child benefit too.

If my daughter is staying is at home and going to Uni then am I still am not obliged to pay for both children?

It is just a struggle when I don't have any real contact with the children to see what type of education my daughter is attending. Hence, I'm just trying to get a handle on where I stand legally.

Thank you.
Karim

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3 years 1 month ago #495585 by spinit
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www.gov.uk/when-child-maintenance-payments-stop

As I understand it the only way you could be liable is if she has failed her A-level's and doing retakes. It would seem the CMS has confirmed this by saying you only have to pay for your younger son.

The only people you need to listen to are the CMS.

If you want to continue supporting your now adult daughter why not ask her mother to ask your daughter to contact you herself with her bank account details so you can do that directly with her from here on in.

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3 years 1 month ago #495593 by WYSPECIAL
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So you are paying via a CMS assessment not a Court Order?

If your daughter has just finished A levels and isn't returning to study at that level then Child Benefit and CMS assessment will both end in September.

If it means that you will now be paying for one child rather than two don't expect it to half, it will actually go down by a quarter.

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