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1 year 7 months ago #504260 by Mom77
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I read here lots of messages about battles between the parents about child contact.
I have none...well, I had..on my own. The father of my daughter doesnt see her, doesnt share any costs, doesnt take her on holidays or even to look after her on school holidays or weekends. NOTHING. He pays £200 and think his parental responsibility is fulfilled. He can call when it suits him. Every time I asked him to sort his contact with her or at least tell me what days he would like to speak to her so there was a stability in my daughters life, I was getting a very deep meaningful answer \"No deal\".

I was thinking to go to Court to sort his contact or make him share the cost at least for something. But then I thought...Do I want to spend £255 on somebody who doesnt even deserve to be called a father. I blocked his mobile, emails, skype from yesterday.

Would you go to the Court? I tried to arrange mediation 3 times, he didnt come. He costs me too much money. The court can not make him want to see our daughter...

Would you?
Tatiana

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1 year 7 months ago #504261 by WYSPECIAL
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Great that you're supportive and try to encourage contact but you can't make someone see their kids.

All you can do is be there for your daughter and never say anything negative about him to her. She'll work it out herself.

It's his loss.

Is he paying CM at CMS rates? If not you can sort that at least.

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1 year 7 months ago #504262 by Mom77
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No, as he has got no job. So he says. You replied another message of mine earlier today. :-)You are so helpful! xx
I can guarantee that he is underpaying. I havent agreed to £200 but what can I do?
It is really hard to pay for everything she needs just on my own. I have no family here at all. Cant go out or meet somebody.
I honestly believe he will stop paying this month as I tried to take him to court but the court cancelled the meeting (my post you replied earlier today). I honestly would like him to pay a higher child maintenance as I am struggling. But he calls it my demands and thinks it pays for my lipstick.
That is the only thing I wanted from him and explained so many times. No chance.
So that is why I thought to ask them to make him at least share costs for some things.

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1 year 7 months ago #504267 by WYSPECIAL
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Mom77 wrote:

No, as he has got no job. So he says.


Well he clearly has a source of income.

Get onto CMS and open a new case today!

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1 year 7 months ago #504269 by .Sylvia
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A court will not order a child to spend time with an unwilling parent - as it would not be in the child's interests to have contact with a parent who doesn't wish to spend time with them.

While I understand your frustrations and concerns, i feel that by blocking him from your email etc won't help as you've now effectively prevented him from being able to make any kind of contact. It would be much better to leave those communication routes open to him - if he chooses not to use them, then that's his choice but you've now removed that choice from him.

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