My ex is now refusing to have the children on his contact days and is going away on tour. As a result i lose my ability to work and earn on the days he is letting us down. The children and i end up poorer while he goes away for 6 months on a jolly. He has told me (and unfortunately the children) that his only legal obligatio to nthem is to pay the CM of 475 a month. Is this correct? (i will lose more than that per month). I feel like i had just got my life and work back together and now this jeopardises everything for me - again. Do I have any recourse? The days he agreed to have the children are only in the mediated doc and not the CO. But my CO does contain a clause of a nominal 2p a year SM - presumably i could open this and least seek a financial solution to this problem? Though what i really want is to work. I have no penion, no house, no partner and my ex keeps stymying my ability to work. Does it never end? Thank you to anyone who can help me.
If child maintenance comes through cms and the number of nights your ex takes the children has changed you could speak to cms and get the amount he pays adjusted.
Tax credits are paid based on income and do not take into account child maintenance- a bit of a godsend when your ex partner decides to chop and change his plans without considering the knock on effect on the children.
Can you look into affordable child care in your area?
I know how frustrating it is when you end up with the kids all the time - it can be mentally and physically exhausting. The kids will remember and appreciate what you have done for them and your relationship will be stronger as a result.