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Wife Gone out, Told me no to sleeping in my Bed

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14 Jun 12 #336781 by lostandonthesofa
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I am livid, angry to the core luckily the wife has gone out so I am not showing it to anyone.

OK I went out last night to play football, I also asked in advance. And I did actaully ask, Do you mind if I play football on Wednesday night.

Tonight, I got home and just before bathtime my wife said I AM GOING OUT AFTER BATHTIME.

I didnt say a word, as you guys said don''t react. This shows how much she hates me.

Eventually she starts to rub the fact shes going out in my face, makes sure I know shes done her hair, then she has a shower... so head and hair arn''t getting wet so we know whats being cleaned. Then lots of perfume.

Eventuatlly she said I am going don''t bolt the door I will be back eventually. I said you back late, she said I don''t know. Cant I sleep in my own bed then I asked.

Huge dirty look from her and she said NO.. I walked away as I would have siad or done something stupid.

Its my bed I bought it before we were together, now its her room. WTF.

I hate this situation. I dont want to lose my children and I am starting to hate this woman.

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14 Jun 12 #336783 by lostandonthesofa
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Just so you know how dumb I am, she asked me to drop the kids off today at lunch time. Huge journey for me from work to home to school to work and far more than my lunch time.

Only a matter of time before work get annoyed.

But I did it all the same just so she could get to work 1 hour early probably to see the guy shes having an affir with!!!!!1

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14 Jun 12 #336785 by fairylandtime
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If it were me I would go to bed in "my" bed & put something against the door so she cannot get in.

But that''s me :blush:

Not sure what you can do really, it''s really hard for you & it seems she is trying to make it harder / worse in the bid to get you out of the house. Are you on the sofa or a sofa bed, you could treat yourself to a new (comfy) sofa bed - might stick in her throat a bit?

It''s just a grit your teeth & carry on regardless, get yourself a song you can hum when she is being like that, try & keep your distance from her & start to detach yourself emotionally - self presivation being the aim.

Stay strong JJx

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14 Jun 12 #336786 by lostandonthesofa
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I just want her gone, in 11 days shes converted me from loving her to hating her.

I am at boiling point I just need to shout at her.

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14 Jun 12 #336787 by afonleas
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Sorry for you,
When are you going to find a pair and stand up to her,some of us thought it may have been PND but she really taking the water out of you.
There are two sides to a story and we only hear yours so we have no reason to disbelieve what you are saying, but as a mam albeit a long time ago mine were babies,your kids come first, but she obviously does not think so.
If it were me i would get in the bed and let her sleep on the sofa and sorry you need to stand up to her,and start saying no.
You are afraid of the situation but whatever is going to happen will happen so just behave with as much dignity as possible.
look after yourself
luv and cwtchs ..........afon

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14 Jun 12 #336789 by happyagain
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Hear, hear!! Get in your bed and let her sleep on the airbed for a change. how dare she treat you like this? It is your home, your bed. You have as much right to be there as she does. I realise its difficult and you worry about rocking the boat incase she starts making threats / allegations but this is ridiculous.
If she wants a new life, fine. But she needs to realise that this means she will have to buy her own bed and you will not stay at home to become her babysitter. What a thoughtless and unpleasant woman, she needs to go now!!

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14 Jun 12 #336798 by loveourmum
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Wholeheartedly agree with the last 2 posters.

"She has made her bed let her lie in it!"

Your priority is your family.

Why are you "asking?"

Don''t ask - Tell!

OK - if you are doing this - fine. However this is what I am doing - end of.

Best wishes

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