seperated after 22 years...

Hi
I have a thousand questions to ask because I am terribly confused. My husband and I of 21 years have seperated last week. He has a new lady in his life and wants to be with her. I am ok with this but.... We have a joint mortgage of around 80,000 left on it I think? plus a lot of debt which has accumulated...probably in the region of another 80,000 on top of the mortgage. He has a good job and is the bill payer on everything.. he earns around £3,300 per month. I work two small part time jobs and earn around £600 per month. Having had a quick look at the state of our finances I cant see a way forward without myself being left with nothing to live on? We have a 20yo son who still lives with me.. he works too but I dont feel it is fair that he should have to come to our rescue re financial help? The other problem is I am 53. I have been chasing full time jobs for so long now but get nowhere quickly and have no real qualifications - I feel my future looks bleak! My husband however is 43 and still young enough to rebuild his life... I am lost right now and appreciate any advice at all as I dont know where to start?
Thanks in advance.

Hi
Welcome to wiki but sorry you find yourself here.
The first weeks are very difficult, for the moment you need to focus on keeping yourself together, make sure you eat and sleep as best you can. There is no rush to sort things out and its important you give yourself time to adjust to the situation. The financial side of things is often very complicated, but you will be able to get some good ideas of how it could go on the forum.

LB

Thanks LB...
I admit I amstruggling, the fear of the unknown and how things will pan out is a bit overwhelming but I have my feet on the ground and am taking care of me and my son (at 20 he doesnt say much, but he seems to be coping with it all).
My main fear is my home... I could, theoretically, become homeless and that to be honest is the main focus for me.. however, everyday as it comes is my motto and no point worrying about something that hasnt happened yet. time will tell.
Thanks for the use of the forum... there is lots to read in here