I coudn''t make this stuff up. Living a nightmare

After 10 years of living together with my ex-partner, two weeks after my Mum''s funeral she up and leaves to go and live with the love of her life within a month she is happily engaged to him and a director of his business. before this she committed some horrendous act of violence against me.. note me for which i was arrested and charged. but she never dared to turn up in court. the case was always dismissed. I was really ill and was suffering from PTSD was withdrawn. she openly admits that she withheld money from me. made threatening calls to me mum and friends, but who new the truth, i never got angry.

a year later she calls and says it didn''t work out with him and could she have a room as she had no where to go. Stupidly i said yes she arrived in his new BMW X5 she stole. I was in a relationship but my new partner trusted me and it was only for a while. after 3 months she gets a job, i tell her to leave. i know what coming next she will argue then call the Police except I video the matter. She runs away and like clockwork the Police turn up i am arrested and bailed. except she has cried to the police aho let her stay in my home and i am bailed away. i go to my girlfriend now life partner.

two months later i get a Sec21 to leave it is invalid ans the deposit wasn''t put in the deposit scheme. her solicitor who is also the landlords (conflict of interest there etc)write to me to say she has left so i look to get a variation of bail so i can go home. but the landlord challenges the Police and states she''s still there and Police say there is furniture in the property. i can''t go to check so...

the matter goes to court over the DV assault. at this point im given pictures of her looking like she''s been in a car crash and states it was me. I''m confused the CPS are happy the Police are confused as no one saw these marks until now. we go through the prosecution part and we are about to here the defence. the defence starts with the video. as this is about to be played. the ex gets up and states to the bench both my solicitor and me and her got round a table to get me off!!! (I told you couldn''t make this up) so the trial has to stop and she is warned about perverting the course of justice perjury etc.. the Mags bench and the CPS and the clerk of the court are all my witnesses!! so it has to go in front of judge. the judge here''s the same old story, but looks at the video. he stops and turns to her and says how did you get the marks? he did it pointing at me. why didn''t you tell the police? they wouldn''t believe etc etc. The judge wants to retire for 15 mins at this point no defence has been given. he comes back and says he''s dropping the case through lack of evidence and that she has perverted the course of justice and he is giving her a ref of bad character.

great all over? nope. i get to get in my house another 5 months later to find she has taken everything so the Police get involved. 10''s of thousands of goods and cash has gone, but the police can''t find anything even though the house was photographed as i attended to pick up personal items.

gets better....

18 moths later she now wants a non molestation order but not to stay away from here but not to contact her as she thinks this will stop any action to retrieve the goods... So the judge ask will i give an undertaking i say NO and it goes to another hearing except her solicitor wants to see Police Disclosures

The best bit and you should check these for yourself.

The disclosure comes. no ordinarily the solicitor would get it but i have representing myself. The disclosure has around 40 incidents in it many i''m not aware of. but here''s the punchline; the disclosure says i have been convicted of charges of assault and harassment. so i call the police control room and ask for them to read out the various cases were i have been found guilty. the operator says no i haven''t been found guilty of anything???? very strange.. but now the ex has a copy the disclosure was not marked Restricted etc...

so Police disclosure send an email gving more stories and lies to back themselves up the Police again say none of this is on the PNC???

oh well at this point i still haven''t got my goods back and we are in court for the non Molestation order apparently she scared of me. and has lived in fear after she left for another guy. even though she loves digging the dirt on facebook etc...AAAAGGGGHHHH

my advice staay single

Sounds like you''ve been through soem hard times! Whats the deal with her? Why did you take her back in?

This sounds a nightmare situation.

How can she say she''s lived in fear of you because she left for another man, when it was you she turned to a year later when she needed a home to come back to?

She may not get her non mol order against you. Do you have receipts/bank statements proving you purhased the items? Was it proven that she had stolen the other man''s car?

Are you going to spend more on retrieving the items than they are worth now?