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What if he does not move out?

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4 years 2 months ago #483548 by HappyMe73
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Hi, I am finishing off the preparation for a DIY divorce .
We do share equally the children care and we are both self employed working from home. The house is in both names.
For the past 5-6 years I contribute for the majority of the household bills, mortgage and so on. I worked hard to balanced my work load and the children, working evening and nights and in between family commitments.
My partner, despite asking several time to look for at least a part time job to bring home a minimum monthly, has contribute on average £300.00 per month for the past 5 years.
Our financial situation is critical with depth and overdraft but he does not see the situation as dramatic as I do.
The home situation is getting worth with him hardly talking to me and sometimes ignoring me altogether. I also suspecting he seeing an other person (as he already done in the past).
I am concern that he would not leave the house when I will ask him to and that exactly what I want and not willing to negotiate on.
Can someone give me an idea of how things may go if we get gridlock on this point please?
Thank you and happy Sunday

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4 years 2 months ago #483559 by Lostboy67
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Hi
Welcome to wiki but sorry you find yourself here.
I am possibly going to sound a little un-sympathetic, I am not I'll just tell you how it is.
The bottom line is that it is his home too, regardless of how much you have respectively contributed.
The advice you would both be given is not to move out before the financial side of the divorce is finalised.

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4 years 2 months ago #483564 by HappyMe73
Replied by HappyMe73 on topic Re:What if he does not move out?
Hi LB,

Thank you for your reply, I do appreciate straight answers.
I guess I will start the ball rolling and see. I do not want to take anything away from him: not the children or the house.
I am very much in peace with it all but I do not like confrontation.
I have been in a spin cycle for few years now and I guess I just want some peace; I do realise that it's now that I need to find the energy somewhere and push trough.
Before doing anything I will have a chat with him and see if we can reach an agreement, I do hope that I will be pleasantly surprise once that he understand how much it can all cost if we start to disagree.

Thanks again and have a great week.
HM

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