My husband and I have separated but he refuses to leave.... Saying that I should go and leave the children with him. He works long hours and sometimes doesn't come home. (Friday night he missed the last train and didn't come home until the next morning).
I am starting to get desperate for my own space and sanity as we keep falling back in to the same patterns. I have looked at rental property's for myself and our children but they are more than I earn, this is with me looking at two of the children sharing a bedroom.
How am I going to be able to afford it all. I'm I just going to be trapped in this marriage forever.
I could cry. ***
If you divorce, the priority for a Court would be to make sure that the children had a roof over their head.
In cases like this the usual outcome is that the children continue to live in the former marital home; but that outcome would assume you
could afford to live there with the benefit of such resources as you have or could acquire.
These could include child/spousal maintenance, child benefit, tax credits, council tax benefit, housing benefit ( I think they call it universal credit now ).
Without knowing more about the financial situation it is difficult to comment. Your husband needs accommodation of his own too, of course.
I think it might help you to book an appointment with a CAB
they could give you an idea of what could be realistic.