Police reports

Since I posted on this 5 weeks ago I had another call from the police last Saturday to say that my wife has called them to complain about my behaviour. Namely that I have been in two places where she has been and she found it intimidating. On both occasions neither party knew the other was going, there was no eye contact or any contact at all, it is bizarre. And again for the second time she has called them but says she does not want to take it further so I have nothing I can respond to, which is frustrating as I am innocent on all fronts.

SHe has also been trying to cause trouble elsewhere so I think it is s pattern of harassment to make my life difficult. The only thing I can think to do is to get a solictors letter asking her to state the issues she has and why the police were called and say that if it continues we will consider it as harassment.

Any advice on how to proceed is appreciated..

I'm wondering if she is after legal aid? You can get it if you have been a victim of DA in the previous 24 months.

The police can only prosecute if she supports the prosecution as she would be the main witness. Its not at all unusual for people to report DA to the police then refuse to support prosecution

MJay wrote:

I'm wondering if she is after legal aid? You can get it if you have been a victim of DA in the previous 24 months.

Applicants for legal aid must also qualify on the strict financial remit - it's not as simple as claiming domestic violence within the last two years .

I think it may be because she is half living with her new partner in the village that we lived (FMH) where I was born, grew up, had my children and my parents still live there. I think it may be a warning shot for me to stay away as she does not want me bumping into them.

I have only been there 4 times to socialise in 3 years and have never phoned the FMH, msged her (we have to go through a third party) or done anything other than wait at the bottom of the drive for my daughter to come out. It is bizarre and disturbing to have this happen, the police calling you about alleged behaviour. I have never been in trouble with the police and to have allegations against me that involves them calling me does not feel good....and does no good for my children.

Not sure where she is going with it and whether I should or can be doing anything to clear my name....

I can't say why your wives didn't pursue their matter. But I have had to call 999 on two occasions relating to my STBX. On both occasions I was given the option of pressing charges and I declined.
Why? Well I called 999 because I feared for my safety and felt I was in immediate danger. The police turning up removed that immediate threat, so as far as I could see that was the outcome I needed. I felt that pressing charges would just fuel the situation and make things a whole lot worse.

Did the police references help? Well sort of. They were mentioned in my UB grounds for divorce, but haven't even been mentioned in the financial settlement nor should they be. They were mentioned in the proceedings relating to the children and I do think they had an impact in creating an overall picture, especially where CAFCASS were concerned. But they weren't given any specific consideration.