So my husband is now recording me ,( my distress and my conversations with him and other people) on his mobile phone , I think he trying to say its some type evidence ?? of what I do not know.
So he calling me a \" mental \" case in front of my children , then hitting record on his mobile phone as I was shouting I'm not mental at him , then pauses the phone , calls me another name and hits record again. I think this is provocation.
The Police said he can record me, however solicitor and civil legal aid persons said he cant record me .
The police have told him he can ,so now I cant talk in my house to anyone as for fear of him recording all of my conversations how can I be expected to live like this ?
Unfortunately this type of behaviour is common. You could choose not to respond, you could keep your cool - on the grounds that you realise you are being provoked, you could make your own recordings or you could do nothing.
It is rare for a court to consider such evidence and even if it was raised in court, what would a judge think of a set of incomplete recordings made by one person without permission and in full knowledge of another person.
I have learned over many years that those who take extreme measures to prove a point that is either irrelevant or untrue are usually the ones with the problem.
I would keep a written diary of when the recordings are being made and make brief notes of what was being said. If you do this, the incomplete recordings can be debunked if they are presented out of context and you can direct your attention to the diary rather than engaging emotionally with the provocation.
Hi thanks for all your help , he has been on the internet shaming me to all of his contacts. In his eyes I have a mental illness and I've \"(she) cut of the internet OFF\" (yes really).How funny as he's in fact writing this rubbish on on the internet that is obviously not cut off or maybe its just magic
What he is doing is provoking you, maybe you could record the whole conversation with your phone? That fills in the missing bits.
A court would not be interested in listening to the recordings.
As for rights, I looked into to this, because I recorded my EX.
Now thats got your attention, why? I used a small recorder like you would use for dictation, smaller than a phone.
When we first split, i was devastated and wanted to know what was going on, when I was out, I left the recorder on voice activation.
I looked into the legality, for if I ever needed to use any 'evidence'.
Basically, when you enter someone else's house. you kind of relinquish your privacy rights, as, they may have any kind or surveillance device you may not know about.
You can also record in your own home without consent as long as the recordings are not used for commercial gain.
I found out my EX had been stashing money away by sneaking cash out from our account, her account, cash advances at supermarket, keeping cash from the £500 a month I gave her and passing it to her friend each week on their hobby night. This had probably been going on for two years.
I also heard a host of other things that 'I' should and shouldnt do in my future.
So it was rather Therapeutic as a 'moving on' tool, to know just what I had been living with.
I never did anything with the recordings, they were just info for me.
I really wouldnt worry about it for your sanity, just smile and say, nearly ran out of memory yet?
But in the first instance, dont let him wind you up, ignore him when he tries to bait you. Just say something like, be aware, walls have ears too.
I would have thought that this behaviour could come under the new legislation to outlaw \"coercive control\" which may be defined as \"a pattern of domination that includes tactics to isolate, degrade, exploit and control\". It became a criminal offence under Section 76 of the Serious Crimes Act 2015. It's a bit of a catch-all to cover behaviour not covered by other legislation - e.g. what you've described doesn't constitute harassment.
Perhaps a return to the police would help or a discussion with your nearest women's shelter.