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Separated but living together

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2 years 10 months ago #498044 by darkfibre
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:(I was told three weeks ago that my wife wanted to separate whilst we were both on holidays overseas. It was an awkward situation and she eventually came home one week early to London. Somehow we were able to have a civil conversation about living arrangements.

I was paying the mortgage for the 1st year and when I found out that she wanted to separate I said that she should pay 50 percent of the mortgage or she should look for another property.

I don't know if this is legal but so far she has agreed to this. My salary is double hers so I don't know if she has rights to pay less, I just figured that she never contributed to paying the mortgage and I paid all the bills except for food that this is fair?

I am looking to proceed the divorce in the new year, but does this impact any financial arrangements?

Thanks.

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2 years 10 months ago #498045 by Under60
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From your post I assume you have been married for one year? Did you cohabit before hand? Do you have children to consider?

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2 years 10 months ago #498046 by darkfibre
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Hi, married for 5 years and no children.

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2 years 9 months ago #498604 by polar
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I have a friend in your situation. His STBX got promotion while he initially struggled to get odd jobs prior to finding a good job.
He said that if she wanted a 50/50 split of assets then everything else should be split 50/50.

The attitude of his STBX was that I will survive very nicely thank you after the divorce and went 'shopping 'for new flats, new bathrooms and new kitchens.

Then reality hit. Her car broke down, needed taxing, needed mot. needed insurance which was originally in his name so high NCB.

Now the pompous attitude is changing to 'I haven't any money' .

She has discovered that two really can live as cheaply as one.(almost) and in the meantime she has to pay 50% of all household bills.

This type of situation hits all of us when we get divorced and we suddenly get landed with a mortgage ..if you can get one..rent and all the other bills that were once shared between 2 incomes. I don't have to tell anyone on here that a severe cost cutting situation comes into play and at least in the short term the icing on the cake vanishes.

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