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22 Jan 20 #511146 by tweede dee
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not sure of the answer here. any advice appreciated.
i have had a second short marriage no children- 4.5 years in total
she always said not her house. i have paid all the bills grocery stuff all the shopping etc etc. had enough. lost my daughters on the way. have a son whom i care for and lives with me
she just turns up cos has home rights and that's fines but i still pay for everything . its not right. what can i do ?

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25 Jan 20 #511184 by hadenoughnow
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Have you started the divorce process??

Does she have anywhere else to live? Does she have the funds to support herself??

Did you live together before you married? For how long??

A legally binding financial order and Decree Absolute will sort this out.

A settlement may need to look at how much the house has gone up in value since you got together and paying her half less any joint debts

Hadenoughnow

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25 Jan 20 #511191 by tweede dee
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many thanks for your post second marriage
4.5 years 3 years married
no children this time thank GOD
3 children FROM THE FIRST AND PAY maintenance for which is right
she has paid nothing no bills. said it was my house but the divorce changes this
she has told me wants a life changing sum
i don't have it
have to come up with something
but after a short childless marriage why do i have to sell the house my daughters grew up in and my son was born in. i delivered him at home
not fair but life is not. then time off work at present as its hard.

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25 Jan 20 #511194 by hadenoughnow
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With a short childless marriage the rule of thumb is that you take out what you put in.

Any settlement should not leave her in a significantly worse position than she was when you met. There is no reason for her to receive a life changing sum.

If you need support, give the helpline a ring.

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