Hi I'm going through a tough time at the moment as my partner of 18 years turned nasty and I had no other option but to leave the family home as it was affecting my 15 year old and was basically kicked out with nowhere to go and no money as this happened just a few days after Xmas. It took her 2 weeks to move her new man in to the family home as he is married which has left me speechless and which I have been sleeping on friends sofas in all of this and I paid towards the mortgage for all of the 18 yrs and raised 2 step children as well as the 3 child we have together.step children have their own houses now so that's not an issue but my name is not on the mortgage but have proof of investment in the property. I'm just asking if anyone has been in a similar situation and could offer me some advice please.
Glenn22 - sorry to read about your situation, I know things are very hard now but you will get through it.
The first thing you need to do is register your interest in the property with the Land Registry to protect your financial position. Once you have registered your interest, your ex-partner cannot sell the property or apply for a larger mortgage without you being told about it.
Also, remove her name as a beneficiary on any life insurance, pension, saving / investment accounts etc. If you have a joint bank account, close/change it. If you have a Will, change it.
I took these actions and they helped me regain some control of the situation early on, then I started planning for the divorce stage with the help of this website, which is excellent.