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Agreed to cohabit and co parent under the same roof

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20 Jul 20 - 20 Jul 20 #513344 by Kani_ahmad
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Hi, I am new to this whole process and I am in desperate need for advice.

My relationship and marriage of 20 years has broken down since 2018 and have been living in the same house. This has put a lot of stress on me and the lifestyle we once had.

Since I have been begging him to leave as he has the bigger wage I now realise I can not do that as we both own a property share of the house. Whilst at my most frustrated state of mind the ex husband decided to compile a recording and presented it to the court and painted me in a different light. I looked as if I am incapable and dangerous to him and my children. The court has only heard his side of the story and not mine as he was asking for me to leave the property and not have contact with my children. The judge has over ruled the wish yet only granted me access to my room only. Whilst this was ok prior to lock down as I had a job so it only meant to sleep in my room and wait for the hearing date to give my side. Since March I have been imprisoned in my room and was not able to go anywhere around the house. We have had conversations about the future and I was pleading and bargaining at the time to reconcile our whole relationship. He made it clear he doesnt want to yet he would like to withdraw from his case. I accepted and understood my fate as I was constantly living in fear. We both agreed we had no money for a court battle and we agreed to drop the case and live together to parent the children as it was financially not doable to survive and provide separately. I dont know the process and I am not sure what I need to do to be able to survive this pandemic as I have also just lost my job and was in the middle of trying to reduce the mortgage outgoing as we have been paying high interest for 5 years.

I just want to be able to find a way where we both can agree on things and I have suggested councilung in order to be able to improve our communication level for cohabiting under the same roof in order to co parent together.

How do I proceed with legal separation and what are my rights? I just want to be able to survive and provide for my children.
Last edit: 20 Jul 20 by Kani_ahmad.

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