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27 Mar 12 #320368 by redwine47
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My stbx also takes fits and blackouts /don''t know where he lives i suppose I should make sure my child knows what to do in this situation if it arises? His mobile phone. I provided seems to run out of battery when at stbx? Given me food for thought re emergencies .. Thanks.

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27 Mar 12 #320369 by vivi36
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How old is your child? I know that my x will always have his phone on him which is why I made her memorise my number. Also in the hope that if someone offered help she could get them to ring me. I told her that she absolutley does not leave his side (don''t want them being lured off while the x is fitting)and as long as a call was made I would be on my way to her. I explained to her that if he collapsed then it would be absolutley no fault of hers. she just needed to dial 999 then me. I also told her that she needed to ask him questions about as he would not talk to me.
It''s bloody scary tho eh? thankfully he reduced contact proberly only because she started questioning him.

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27 Mar 12 #320372 by Mummy TC
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thanks guys. I am going to contact a lawyer tomorrow and get a clear answer on where I stand and then tackle him head on

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27 Mar 12 #320373 by redwine47
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viva 36 omg , this is scary stuff My STBX has had these fits for many years leading to temper physical abuse etc although child still has to visit his dad.

I sort of forgot about the blackouts as not in contact with stbx until recently in court he produced a medical record stating he had another blackout/fit recently (caused by the stress I was putting him under re divorce etc) even though I have not seen or contacted him for 2.6 years and he is with a new partner!! Apols going off topic!

My child is only with stbx once every two weeks although is 12 and sensible but I will make sure has instructions on what to do. Thanks.

So many things going on its hard to thing of everything. Should I be mentioning this in court ? Safety etc...?

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28 Mar 12 #320376 by Mummy TC
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yes definitely - I''d seek legal advice if i were you on how to present this in court. If his health is this bad then you could insist on daytime only visits and insist that those are supervised until his health gets better. As your child is 12 you may not get far with it. Do make sure though your child knows what to do in the event of him getting ill.

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28 Mar 12 #320387 by mumtoboys
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it needs to be put in perspective - people have fits and people who are married but happen to be alone with their child one day can equally have a fit as one who is separated and divorced. It doesn''t suddenly make a person an unfit parent or in need of supervised contact, surely?

However, when you add the control freak element into the mix, it gets more complex! Perhaps your phone numbers taped to the inside of their bag when they go to dad''s for reference? or just slipped in a side pocket? You can make it look like a ''if lost, please return to label'' by also adding dad''s number?

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