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my ex''s attendance at parents evening

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27 Sep 12 #358290 by acfair
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After 2 and half years of court hearings, the Judge decided that prolonging the litigation would be detrimental to the children and ordered indirect contact court order for my ex-partner. This means gifts and cards at Christmas and birthdays.

My sons refuse to have anything to do with their father - he was an alcoholic and was abusive. CAfcaSS have been involved and written 4/5 reports and recommended indirect contact as sons have been psychologically affected by their father''s behaviour.

My ex has been given an appointment for parents evening in an allocated time slot where there will be a lot of my sons'' classmates around. My son sees school as a safe environment where his dad can''t get to him. I have asked school to reschedule to a more appropriate time, preferably on another day.

Am I being reasonable? My sons would be so upset to think their father had been in their safe haven - oldest son accessing CAMHS for counselling as a result of impact of their father''s behaviour.

Where do I stand? Any advice gratefully received.

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28 Sep 12 #358299 by Fiona
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It''s very much at the schools discretion to decide what is in your son''s interest. Your ex has Parental Responsibility so he has the same responsibility and rights as you to go to parent evenings. If that is going to create problems for the children you could apply to court for a Prohibited Steps Order to prevent him from attending school.

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