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Ex threats to go for full custody

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04 Mar 13 #382444 by TEIN
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Could anyone pls advise on if my ex has any real grounds to go for full custody.

She left me Jan 2011 following a no. of affairs on her part. She moved out Apr 2011 since when, we have looked after the children (agreed through sols but not courts) ex Mon to Thur nights, me Fri to Sun and managed the hols accordingly with us both agreeing full weeks each when required.

This status quo has worked well upto now (besides the fact I miss them everyday they are not with me) but following a recent argument, both at fault, I threatened to out her regarding her affairs and she threatened to go for full custody and to the CSA.

Could she feasiably have a chance of increasing her custody allowance given that the current agreement has worked fine since we agreed it almost 12 months ago?

Would the CSA come after me for money given that she earns more, has the house, has a new man (moved in together within weeks of leaving me) who also earns more and I arguably have the more expensive days with them being the weekend and live back at my mums while I save for a new place?

Thanks Tein.

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04 Mar 13 #382449 by Fiona
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It isn''t unusual for separated spouses/partners to get angry with one another and threaten to withhold contact or financial support. Sometimes if the situation can be defused it just blows over. Arrangements for children tend to change as they grow older or if their parents circumstances change but your ex would need to show a court why the existing arrangement which was agreed is no longer satisfactory.

As far as child maintenance is concerned under the CSA rules the parent who has the children most nights is the parent with care and the parent with the least nights is the non -resident parent who pays child support.

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