I am new to this forum but would desperately appreciate some advice.
I left my husband in September 2012 due to our marriage breaking down beyond repair. We have been married for 4 years and have 2 children, a son aged 3 and an 18 month old daughter.
Although the seperation was initially amicable and communication between us was good it has now broken down.
My husband has had access to our children as and when he wanted although this tended to be each weekend.
Following my son''s recent admission to hospital and treatment for pneumonia, we fell out as my husband did not respond to my texts that our son needed to go to hospital.
We now cannot speak without conflict and I need advice about phone contact that my husband has with our children.
He had been calling my mobile each night to speak to our children.
I have to support these phone calls by putting the phone and loud speaker and following the children around our home and initiate points of discussion, example, can you tell daddy how your day was etc.
As my husband refuses to speak to me civilly and has sent me aggressive texts, I have now said that I don''t want him to call my phone. He has said that he is legally entitled to call my mobile and have access to speaking to our children. I''s this true?
Also, although he has said he takes them to his mums home, he will not confirm where he takes them and gives patchy accounts of where they have been. His bitterness towards me is becoming so twisted, that I feel he is acting odd, which is starting to worry me.
I do not believe in preventing the children I''m seeing their dad but I am starting to wonder whether I should be dropping them off at train stations at the weekend when I dont know where they are going. My husband has always enjoyed a drink but I have never doubted his parenting abilities but now these horrible texts seem to come only in the evening, I am suspicious that he is drinking a lot which worries me about him looking after the children.
What should I do?
We have no formal family order. I have asked to involve advice from
mediation and he repeatedly threatens to take the matter to court but will not actually commit to arranging anything.
I''ve asked for a divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour. He has emailed me to say he will not agree to this although he is willing to admit adultery (I didn''t know that he had been unfaithful until he mentioned this last week)
Sorry for the long post
Thank you in anticipation