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reducing contact and potential court

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6 years 1 week ago #445250 by cazzajambo
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Hi
Im looking for some advice please. I have 23 month old twin and separated from their father 3 months ago (his ended the relationship) he has been seeing the kids overnight every weekend Friday til Sunday and i feel it is not working. Him having them every weekend prevents the kids from seeing my family as they live 40 mins and 1 hour away ans work full time during the week. Also my come jan my kids are entitled to the 2 year nursery funding so they will go to nursery for 5 afternoons so feel that i will hardly see them and have even less time to do family things unless at weekend. I have mediation next week with ex and im going to suggest change contact to every other weekend. I have a feeling that if i change contact he will take me to court for access. Does anyone have any suggestions how to approach the topic in mediation and also does anyone know if as i now on income support can i claim legal aid to argue my case in court.

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6 years 1 week ago #445264 by Rumplestiltsk1n
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does he live close to you and would it be possible for him to have them overnight during the week?

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6 years 1 week ago #445283 by cazzajambo
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Hi thanks for your reply.
He lives about 10 or 15 mins away, other side of the city from me and he works full time so unless he had a day off it wouldnt work him having them during the week he wont give me his shifts but can work any time from 7.30am til 9pm but he assures me he will no longer work is rota weekends and will finish his work on a Friday at 6pm at the latest. At the laat mediation i offered 2 hours during yhe week after his work before kids bedtime but after 2 weeks he gave it up saying he would just have them at weekends. They have things on every morning during the week playgroups mother ans toddler ect. Do you think im wrong?

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6 years 1 week ago #445297 by tontas
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Hi

I am on the other side of the fence here...

I have 3 girls work away in saudi for 4 weeks..

I have my girls fri afternoon til Monday morning. when away my mother and father have them the same amount of time..

This is consistency for the kids IMO.. I hate not being able to do the normal day to day stuff with my kids and this is second best but a good soloution all round..

There are school holidays. which i have them for half the holidays she has them the other..

I am sure as i am if given enough notice that letting the kids miss a weekend with there father wouldnt be an issue. I have no issues with this (male point of view)

Don''t use the kids like my wife saying one doesnt want to come etc. cos he will ask like i did..

My daughter was totally confused when i said i was told she didnt want to come.. she said it was her mums idea and that she did infact want to come.

I dont know your personal circumstances but as a loving father every min i get with my girls is special as i want to be a big part of there lives. not just a weekend father pardon the pun but one of thoes fathers that you see in mcdonalds that only get there kids for a couple hours every week..

If he is a good dad let him have this time with his kids..

work around your family after all they only have 1 mother and 1 father.. like i said i am sure he would if reasonable accept that they might want to see some family one week...

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