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4 years 7 months ago #473682 by rcs123food
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turns out he has emailed our mediator to explain his reasons behind his refusal for consent.... that being that he is aware I am in contact with a local man who has contacts with Asia ( no idea who he means by this), and also the fact that in the past I have chatted to a few blokes on chat apps and I am ashamed to say sent inappropriate pictures.all of which he has only discovered because he has used a friend who is qualified in cyber forensic to unearth items on my old phone.
He is also kicking off that I applied for a passport for my daughter without his knowledge.
Does anyone know the process of applying for a special order, and how long it takes?

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4 years 7 months ago #473752 by Unexpected101
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Just wanted to say I''m in solidarity with you about this and understand your frustration. My ex-bf tried to stop me taking our kids away in 2008 and I had to get a Residence Order (those have been replaced now by Child Arangements Order)so we could still have holidays as he was never going to allow it then or in future. If you''ll want further holidays later I''d look at getting something permanent like that.
I was lucky that the Judge saw he was doing it out of spite and only looking at what he wanted not what was best for the children and confronted him about that. Hope you get it resolved

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4 years 7 months ago #473764 by vanilla30
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Good luck. I know how you feel. My ex refuses to sign a passport application for our son so he can have a holiday with me. He told me two years ago that if I took him on holiday (ferry to Ireland, no passport required) that he would have the police waiting for me and I would be arrested for kidnapping!

He knew the return date of our ferry but he also is a controlling bully.

He also said that he (our son) would only have holiday memories with him.

He is still refusing to sign the passport application and I will have no other choice but to apply for a court order that his signature is not necessary.

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4 years 7 months ago #473765 by Funny Farm
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I applied for a passport renewal for my son without his dad''s signature and put in the notes that we were separated. Got the passport without a problem.

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4 years 7 months ago #473771 by rcs123food
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Getting my eldest passport off my husband is one issue,I applied behind his back for a renewal on my youngest,no questions asked by passport office,but I still have the same surname as them.
I need to figure out how to appeal to his nicer sensible nature to let me and the girls go with his blessing.although this morning he was asking the girls what colour they wanted the living room painted as he was planning to do it over half term....he has a cheek as as yet there has been no agreement as to who stays on in the house (although he wants to,despite only working 11 self employed hours a week and not even earning 10 grand a year,he wants the house the kids and me to pay him a sizeable maintenance!!!!!)
Any way Monday morning I will chase up why his solicitor has not received instruction on the consent and then push for urgent court hearing if the answer is still no.

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4 years 7 months ago #473865 by rcs123food
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Well with heavy heart I am now having to apply for an emergency specific issue order to gain consent to travel.
His objections as 1)taking the girls out of school for two days and gettin fined
2)the has concerns about the destination we are travelling to
3)general well being of the kids.
The holiday I one week in Tenerife with there grandma,uncle,aunt and two young cousins and my self,cant for the life of me how any if that should be of high risk activity.
Its ok for him to take them out to all sorts of places,feed them rubbish food,forget about school work,need for sleep,but I need his permission to take them abroad,you have to love this country

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4 years 7 months ago #473867 by rubytuesday
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Try not to worry to much - a family holiday is usually seen as beneficial to the children, esp when it also means being able to.spend time with extended family.

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