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21 Jan 09 #80877 by rhiannon555
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hi, do you have parental responsibility,? mothers have this automatically if you are not married, otherwise the father has to apply for it usually straightforward. there is not an automatic right to residency as far as i am aware if both parents have parental responsibility, it comes under the children's act. however if the child is normally resident with her then that unlikely to change unless it was not perceived to be in the childs best interests. though i do not think there is anyway you can stop her moving with the child unless that would place him at risk, worth getting legal advice.

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22 Jan 09 #81176 by teckle
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Went to the solicitors today, soon as i said her name his eyes looked shocked and said "i have a bad feeling about this" went checked some files i think and said he can't represent as she has already been to visit him. I know she has been to one solicitor in town before him too, now i have another appointment for another solicitor monday...very earliest i could get. I just hope she hasnt been to them. It seems this has been planned out for a while, which makes it even harder to understand and more hurtful :(

I'm not sure if i have parental rights and responsibilities, i did co-sign the birth certificate(does that classify as PRR?) with her and have raised our son as much. But we have had no legal issues before this...as i thought we got on well!

Everyday is getting harder and monday is feeling too late, im a firm beleiver in karma but i can't see how she could ever be made to feel as much hurt as she has put me and my family through.

Thank you all for your help, i really appreciated it, hope you all have a good weekend!

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22 Jan 09 #81179 by rubytuesday
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if your child was born after 4th May 2006 and you were present at the registration of the birth and your name is on the birth cert then you will have PR.

In Scotland parental responsibility is defined in the Children (Scotland) Act 1995 as the responsibility:

* to safeguard and promote the child's health, development and welfare,
* to provide direction and guidance,
* to maintain personal relations and direct contact with the child on a regular basis, and
* to act as the child's legal representative.

Having parental responsibility for a child enables a parent to make day-to-day decisions in respect of their child about matters such as education, religion and medical treatment. Any parent with parental responsibility can also, for example, object to any change of a child's name.

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24 Jan 09 #81697 by teckle
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Been a crazy day, good news that i do have Parental rights and responsibilitys, and that ive seen on some websites that its a crime and parental child abduction for her to move from scotland without my consent.

Bad news is my mother phoned her mother too see if she gave the "blessing", seems she has and that she beleives her daughter has "solo custody" of rhory which ive found out since having PRR, i have more rights than i knew and she knows. Also found out this has been in the planning for 4-5 months, she and her bf and rhory are living in a 3 bedroom council house(which must of taken a while to get and decorate) somewhere in london which has been decorated with thomas the tank wallpaper etc (added from her mother for detail). Premeditated child abduction is the term i guess would be used, it just hurts me more now that i trusted for that long and didnt see it coming at all. I nearly phoned the police tonight and ask them too find them and to find out if my son is ok, im worried for his safety, someone who could abduct a child of 2 and be so souless and evil for no reason....i cant trust with his welfare and life. All i can do it wait till monday for the solicitor...if it was kidnap from a stranger this would of been resolved or at least hopefully some legal effort made already, its just so painful without my son here.

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