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30 Mar 12 #320954 by Teepeeswii
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I have lived with a professional married(separated since 2002) man for 5 years. After meeting him 4 months after he left the matrimonial home.

He was married for about 10 years and had one daughter who is now 19 and he is financing her through university.

He is still officially married and pays the mortgage and household bills where his wife lives alone in the 4 bed detached house.

We are buying a house together which is of similar value as the matrimonial home.

1. Where do I stand?
2. Is my house counted as their joint assets?
3. Will he legally have to support her for life?
4. Should I press him to Divorce?

Please help!!!

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30 Mar 12 #320959 by livinginhope
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My personal opinion is that he should get his divorce and Financial Settlement sorted out before you get any more involved than you already are.
Why has he not gone for a Divorce before now?
I have a friend who lived with a man for 10 years without him Divorcing his wife.After that length of time he left her to return to his wife.It''s highly unlikely to happen but it can.

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31 Mar 12 #320977 by Teepeeswii
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Financial arrangement over his daughter.
He can afford it so I didn''t interfere as I have always thought it would change when his Daughter came of age.
He told me at Xmas she was selling t
He house in new year & it would be settled. Ha
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31 Mar 12 #320979 by hawaythelads
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If you are committing any of your money to the new property then it would be sensible for him to be divorced first
If he is buying the home without any financial input from you sit back and enjoy the ride.
All the best
HRH

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31 Mar 12 #320985 by Teepeeswii
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I put every thing I have into this house. We have secured our input in monetary value & Iput in the larger share. The mortgage is joint shared

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31 Mar 12 #320988 by hawaythelads
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Then I personally wouldn''t go near that financial commitment if it was me as he is not divorced and he is not financially viewed as individual by the law.
All the best
Pete

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