This really is difficult to explain but if anyone can help i will be delighted and then i will move on so that i can leave you alone!
1991 I bought my house.
2002 my friend moved in because he had no where to live and i offered him a room only He paid £50.00 a week
2005 we started a relationship. He then started to pay towards food only.
I paid for everything else:
Mortgage, Coucil Tax, Every Utility Bill etc.
2009 the relationship ended and he left wasnt asked to leave i came home from work to a letter saying " Thank you for all of your help and support over the years but I just need time on my own "
Bit sad but we all have a choices so i have got on with my life and then:
He is now claiming through a solicitor that he has payed towards the mortgage and payed on home improvements!!
We did not have joint bank account.
He was never registered at my address(His choice) The door was always left open to him to leave at any time
This can be a problem, firstly he can make the application to court, and he will have some claim but likely to be very limited, the problem for you is the legal costs of defending the application, also the fact that because you were not married, the looser* can end up with costs.
The other problem is will he be honest, that fact that he threatens the action shows he is less than honorable.
Will he go to court and say i paid £x per month to help pay the mortgage and bills, but i paid Ruby it cash, will he say he improved the value of the property fixing stuff decorating ect?.
Its not uncommon for people in your situation to pay some "go away" money rather than go to court.
Or you could think about acting in person to save costs if they do push it to court.
In 2005 you began a relationship and he payed towards groceries
He has never payed the mortgage or the upkeep of the property or any bills relating to the property, this you can prove on paper
As such the relationship lasted four years with no financial contribution from him, how then do they intend to prove to a judge this formerly homeless man has any beneficial interest in Ruby`s house?, you will defend the claim and seek full costs once the judge agrees this sponging dead beat has no rightful claim (the sponging bit is optional)
35k sounds very much like a try on, could you offer 5k as full and final settlement?.