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What are we each entitled to in our divorce settlement?

What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.

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The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

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A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.


Financial Form E

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25 May 12 #332875 by Yummy_Mummy
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My stbx has submitted his form E which I have looked at.

I am really concerned as I really do think that he is telling lies on the form such as his earnings etc etc and is not fully declaring everything.

He is also stating that his family have loaned monies over the year and my family have given ''us'' large sums of money over the years in good faith which I cannot prove.
The banks are stating that they cannot find statements that are over 10years ago.

What do I do as Courts want proof and how do I prove and convince?

Please help.
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25 May 12 #332896 by maisymoos
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Family loans are often considered as soft loans and are discounted. Unless there is an official loan agreement. It will be up to your ex and possible his parents as witnesses or intervenors to prove money passed across was a loan. Not an easy thing to do.

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25 May 12 #332941 by Yummy_Mummy
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Thank you for your reply.

I am not sure how this is going to look in Court as I really do think he has been swindling money and moving it round without me knowing anything about it. Any agreement that he has had with his family is between them as I have never been involved.
He has used up everything that I had during this marriage and now I have nothing left.

I think there are a pack of lies especially to state that his parents have lent him money.

I am worried about how to recover any money from him for my children as I have nothing now. :unsure:

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25 May 12 #332947 by maisymoos
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Are you claiming child maintenance?

Your stbx will need to produce 12 months bank statements for all accounts, you can go through these with a fine tooth comb. It is actually quite difficult to hide money. You will then have an opportunity to ask questions in relation to his disclosure.

If you had no involvement in the family money that was passed across and as you say it was an agreement between them, the onus will be on them to prove it was a genuine loan.

I remember being where you are now, just deal with one thing at a time work hard at your questions for example did the money come across in one go? ask for bank statements to show transactions. What was the money loaned for? Ask for a loan agreement, was interest being paid on the money given etc.

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25 May 12 #332973 by Yummy_Mummy
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Thank you very much.

I think he has been moving money around alot longer than 1 year ago but it is difficult to prove. The money has been moved so much and now it is in his sole name and legally I can''t really see it and prove where it actually came from.

The problem is that we are married so it becomes a ''haze'' and not as simple as money laundering but the term applies in the sense of stealing or using money behind the other partner''s back which is what he has been doing.

I believe you said that you went through this; is there anything I can do to prove what he has been doing please?
Thank you. :kiss:

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25 May 12 #332986 by Lostboy67
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DummyMummy wrote:

I think he has been moving money around alot longer than 1 year ago but it is difficult to prove. The money has been moved so much and now it is in his sole name and legally I can''t really see it and prove where it actually came from.


It doesn''t really matter where it came from you were married so its all part of the pot regardless of who''s name it is in.
How far you want to go in finding money is tricky, it depends on how much you think it is, there is usually a paper trail somewhere, but it might take a foresnsic accountant to find it, which can be expensive.
It is quite a common feeling between divorcing couples that the other has a ''pot of gold'' tucked away somewhere, but very often this is not true.

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28 May 12 #333636 by Yummy_Mummy
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:SOMG I thought you are not suppose to lie on the form E ?

How come they only have asked for finacial declaration for the last 12 months when he has been robbing me before he started the proceedings and I can''t prove it properly as he got me to spend the money over the years saying he had nothing - looking at the paperwork, he did so where''s my money gone?

He''s got the paperwork but it doesn''t add up but I don''t know how to prove his tactics.

DummyMummy.

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