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Constant Harassment from stbx.

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22 May 18 #501780 by dadlovesu
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My stbx called the Police after the long weekend and tried to seek advice on stalking (which infact was a coincidental meeting). On the contrary after making an enquiry she wrote an email to me instructing that I should contact her directly for any divorce related matters and not her solicitor. When contacted by Police, I mentioned about this email from her and we both received the same instructions i.e. we should contact each other only through the solicitors. I am representing myself. I have fwdd all the remortgage related queries to her solicitor. My stbx doesn’t seem to be happy with me and wrote a (yet another) long threatening email and again asked me to contact her directly. She has not paid heed to the advice of the police and contacted me for the 3rd time since the time we both were advised not to contact each other directly.

I emailed the police and asked for guidance & I received the following reply:
“If you feel that she is harassing you will need to attend the police station and report this to police as a separate matter. This will be looked at by a separate officer. From the message below I agree this is all now only a legal matter and not a criminal matter.
I have advised you both equally and the report has now been closed.”
As I am typing this post I received another email from her at 1.06 am enquiring about the remortgage paperwork and her email starts with the disclaimer:
“Disclaimer: In the absence of any medium (solicitors etc.) to discuss and sort out ongoing remortgage matters, I am writing to you directly.”

I don’t understand why can’t she write to me through her solicitor? I feel I am being taunted and teased in to making an error. I am scared to respond to her forms of contact.
Any advice what I should be doing in this case as her actions are very stressful and confusing? Should I lodge a complaint with Police? Don’t know what she will come up with next.

Also I would like to mention that her solicitor has threatened me for the 'n'th time to drag me to the court if I dont submit the form E by end of this month. They are OK even if it is incomplete. They havent yet been issued with the petition from the court since I filed the divorce in Mar.

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24 Jun 18 #502423 by Visselly
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My advice would be to send her an email which states that any communication from her directly regarding the divorce and financial settlement will not be read.

And then do just that.

I took this step a few months ago, and it worked well.


So well in fact that it drove him to distraction and he threw all his toys out of the pram and applied to court.


And don't allow yourself to feel threatened by the solicitor's constant demands. I would imagine that if they had any intention of applying to court, then they would do so. In other words, it's all bluff and bluster.


mediation is mandatory before they can apply, but in my case it would appear that my ex's sols have forgotten this....


If you do receive a court summons and mediation has not taken place, then let me know and I will let you know what steps I am taking.

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23 Jul 18 #502941 by dadlovesu
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@ Visselly - Apologies for the late reply. I have got a more clearer picture now. The funny part is my stbx acknowledged the petition & then instructed her solicitor to go to the court for FDR. (I did tell her that we will exchange the Form E once u acknowledge the petition.) On the form her solicitor mentioned that due to history of domestic violence they cant go for mediation & have also attached a letter from police which says I was arrested but conveniently & for obvious reasons have not mentioned the fact that I was released coz of 'No Evidence to Proceed'. Also nothing has been mentioned that my wife was called for investigation of physical assault.

So what do you suggest I should be doing?

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24 Jul 18 #502946 by Visselly
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So you are now in the court process?

Sorry but I'm npt clear on what form you have recently received.

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16 Aug 18 #503433 by dadlovesu
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I have got a court letter for FDR

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