Is this normal behaviour by a Judge?

Hi,
having read the above posts, I find it amazing that behaviour of spouses is not taken into account, whether it be laziness, debt, violence, physical or verbal / mental etc etc. From my own situation I have divorced a violent wife, who was lazy, refused to work, got the family into a lot of debt. Will be going through financials soon and presumably as we have 2 children who she 'cares' for ( as little as possible to get benefits house, and life of scrounging ) I expect to lose house, and pension I have worked 50, 60 70 hours + a week to keep family financially and made myself ill through exhaustion, panic attacks
.often i would dread going home to violence verbal and physical, but had to protect children.
Philip

I am sorry to hear about your wife, my situation was pretty bad for many years, but being a woman I get a deal of support that I am not sure is there for men.

Is she nasty to the children? My son is now 22 and grew up listening to the abuse, it did not do him any good, when I read his statement for a non molestation order I must admit a felt very bad that I had let him remain in the situation, I had asked him over the years if he would like us to go, I now know that I should not have asked I should have made that decision for him.

I am not though it yet, but it does get better, not having to put up with the abuse on a daily basis is brilliant.

Perhaps you should look at getting the children out of there?

There is help out there when you are renting, so if you rented a house perhaps you would get support?

The financial side is not good

Hi, thanks for reply, I had the chance to get custody of the children last year, and to be fair would have probably got them. However with the need to work ridiculously long hours each week it was not practical. My wife is a manic depressive and the marriage has been a living nightmare. My eldest son has Downs syndrome he is 14. My wife uses him to gain sympathy and spends his benefits on herself, I have had a nightmare of a time trying to prove this as everybody naturally takes the side of the carer, however police have been supportive to me , so have social services, my solicitor (a female ) actually believes me after undisputable evidence CAFCASS believes me. However the court and medical profession continually fall for her lies, she is legal aided and thinks it is one big game trying to destroy me emotionally and financially. It makes me cry when the children do not want to go back to her, I can only imagine the shouting and verbal abuse which will be directed at them now that I am no longer the prime target. I have tried to get the court to recognise that she gets sectioned occasionally , gets a sexual high which to put it bluntly means she will pick up anybody in a craving for sex and take them home. I was forced to have sex with her or was denied sleep at nights,or hit, but being male this is not taken seriously seen as a bit of a joke
She constantly threatened suicide meaning it was hard to sleep thinking would you wake up to a corpse in the bathroom ? Or worse , take the children with her out of spite.
Yet the court thinks none of this is relevant when trying to get money out of me . The law stinks !!!!!!!!
Philip