Losingbattle
Child contact and financial issues are dealt with separately.
Child contact is all about what is in the best interests of the children. Other wikis have far more knowledge than I on these matters. There are also many posts on the subject which will give you some insights in what - and what not - to do in court. The simple message is keep it simple and focused on the children.
Finances are all about needs, what is in the pot and how it can be divided to best meet those needs - with the Parent with Care (PWC) and children at the top of the priority list if there is not enough to go round.
If you go through the courts for the finances, there is a set process to go through. This includes filling in and exchanging a
form E - full
financial disclosure including 12 months bank statements, cc statements etc.
Conduct has no bearing on financial proceedings except in the most extreme cases e.g. when one party has injured the other so they can no longer work.
Once you are in the court system she is answerable to the judge if she fails to comply with any orders. You can only have a legally binding agreement/order once you have a
Decree Nisi.
There is lots of information in the wikivorce library about the process and many, many posts on the subject. Have a look for Ancillary Relief,
form E, section 25 of the 1973 Matrimonial Causes Act, First appointment, FDR, Final hearing ...
Once you have a handle on the process, you can ask specific questions in the forum to make sure you are well prepared.
It is really important to try to take emotions out of all this. If you are not careful, arguing the toss over these things can end up costing a fortune. The judge is not going to care about he said/she said arguments. They are only interested in hard facts and figures.
It is always better to try
mediation to see if you can agree on both contact and finances.
The posts to which mathisfun refers are from somuch2know2 - if you look up his profile, you can find his posts which were related to both contact and financial issues.
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