Certificate of Entitlement to a Decree

I have just received this from the court and in the letter it mentions that the Petitioner (my wife) has sufficiently proved the contents of the Petition which is unreasonable behaviour.

Am I allowed to ask her solicitor for all the proof she has supplied? My reason is that since reading what she put I have felt disgusting and very close to ending my life as I am not the monster she has painted me out to be.

Did you dispute the unreasonable behaviour reasons? I would suggest that you choose your battles wisely. I suspect that seeing the ''proof'' will merely make you feel worse about yourself. It must be awful for you to have to endure but it is a means to an end. Try to just accept that you do not agree with the reasons but agree that the marriage is over, in order for the Petition to go through. The only winners in arguing about the reasons would be the solicitors.

At the end of the day, the reasons will not be open to public scrutiny and will only be seen by your legal people and the Court. You alone know the truth. Try not to take it all to heart and gather your strength for building your new life.

Great advice from action agree the marriage is over disagree with the accusations in the Petition.

Ding ding round one really.

It''s not worth thinking about ending your life over allegations in a divorce petition.No one ever sees the allegations. The divorce decrees just grant the Nisi or Absolute and the reason aren''t mentioned. The absolute is the public record and the other papers are archived and destroyed.

The "proof" are the "facts" given for the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage in the divorce petition. You should have signed the Acknowledgement of Service agreeing the divorce, defending it or agreeing the marriage had broken down but disagreed with the allegations. Which did you do?

Usually there is no point in defending a divorce because the general court rule that an unsuccessful party to a court action pays the costs of the successful party. That means some one could end up paying £12k in legal costs and another £12k for the other sides costs. However if there were allegations of abuse it may affect any children proceedings and tactically it may have been worth defending untrue allegations which cannot be substantiated so they would be withdrawn.

The other option would have been to agree the divorce but disagree with the allegations and reserve your right to defend them if they are raised again at a later date.

Fiona wrote:

It''s not worth thinking about ending your life over allegations in a divorce Petition.No one ever sees the allegations. The divorce decrees just grant the Nisi or Absolute and the reason aren''t mentioned. The Absolute is the public record and the other papers are archived and destroyed.

The "proof" are the "facts" given for the irretrievable breakdown of the marriage in the divorce Petition. You should have signed the Acknowledgement of Service agreeing the divorce, defending it or agreeing the marriage had broken down but disagreed with the allegations. Which did you do?

Usually there is no point in defending a divorce because the general court rule that an unsuccessful party to a court action pays the costs of the successful party. That means some one could end up paying £12k in legal costs and another £12k for the other sides costs. However if there were allegations of abuse it may affect any children proceedings and tactically it may have been worth defending untrue allegations which cannot be substantiated so they would be withdrawn.

The other option would have been to agree the divorce but disagree with the allegations and reserve your right to defend them if they are raised again at a later date.

thanks I guess I am feeling really sorry for myself and it is slowly hitting me that after what I thought was 25 years of a good marriage which had its ups and downs is coming to an end but in answer to your question I did say that i did not admit to the allegations but for the divorce to go through.

Action wrote:

Did you dispute the unreasonable behaviour reasons? I would suggest that you choose your battles wisely. I suspect that seeing the ''proof'' will merely make you feel worse about yourself. It must be awful for you to have to endure but it is a means to an end. Try to just accept that you do not agree with the reasons but agree that the marriage is over, in order for the Petition to go through. The only winners in arguing about the reasons would be the solicitors.

At the end of the day, the reasons will not be open to public scrutiny and will only be seen by your legal people and the Court. You alone know the truth. Try not to take it all to heart and gather your strength for building your new life.

it''s just where we live is a small place and every time I go out I feel as though people are staring at me saying he abused his wife.

WE have 3 daughters who have various mental health problems but there is one thing they all agree on is that they hate men that abuse women and they cannot understand why their mum is saying/doing this.

I feel so bad for the girls because their own mum will not speak to them and hasn''t done for nigh on 5 months and it''s having a very detrimental effect on their lives as a whole.