Offer - first hearing mid December

I have just received an offer from his solicitor, telling me what a good offer it is 60% equity of the house and nothing else. Solicitor States that he earns £27 k which in infact 1/2 of his salary. They want a resolution, I previously asked for all the missing docs from his form E, have not received yet. Why would you give up a job paying £47k to go to one paying £20k less ????? He has since sent me an email asking what I want and that since his dad has passed away life it too short to fight about money, there is so much information missing from his form e, bank statements with thousands in and thousands out, but where from and to he doesn''t say, he claims to have one bank account, where should I go from here? Am litigant in person but a bit flummoxed as how to proceed. thank you xxx

I think before you accept anything you need the outstanding information gut instinct is usually correct And yes it''s probably a very good offer for him! But maybe not you

Thanks Driven, you have been a massive help to me - well a bit of a shock, We have just agreed to communicate by phone and he has agreed to what i need pending info re his parents estate, he seemed to think I was asking more in spousal, but for me it''s not about destroying him, it''s about what is fair and my need, he doesn''t want to go to court saying he has already spent thousands on solicitors, I kept it business like, no emotion. He has received my numerous questions and I told him I am prepared for court if he wants it but we both want an end to it. Lots more stuff discussed, like him collecting his stuff that he seems to think I have sold, I haven''t its his, just want him to collect by the beginning of next year,want it out of the house, so what next, I assume an agreement written by our solicitors, he says loosing his dad has put things into perspective..... He said he will email me tomorrow, so let''s hope this is over and done with. how do I feel? Very sad about the demise of our marriage that he discarded as if it meant nothing but also a sense of relief that I can carry on with my life, I don''t wish him Ill, and really don''t wish him anything, i need to think of me now and my future and heres hoping for a better 2015, this year has been the most difficult year, felt like I was dying inside, but finally I get my life back, fingers crossed xxx

Seems like a good step forward Jane. You are doing so well. Like you I just feel so sad at the demise of my marriage but like you also I know we just have to try and create a new life for ourselves and put all that has happened where it belongs, in the past. Takes time and a lot of emotional energy, as you know. I hope things go as you hope and you can avoid court if possible. I am sure things will be much, much different for you this time next year and that you have a good future ahead of you as being the type of person you are you will make it happen x

Hi Jane
just a quick thought I know you want to put this into a business relationship so why don''t you when you have spoken to each other drop him an email just confirming what you have agreed etc this way you have a paper trail as unfortunately telephone calls dont count if it does go to court.

Hi driven
He has done just that, but his email does nor reflect our agreement, so much in his favour, with me having very little, dies he think I sm stupid? I haven''t even replied,. He has emailed me twice asking me to agree and he will sort it with his solicitor. I am far too trusting! will reply later with what we actually agreed x

Thanks Angie, still too trusting where he is concerned, I honestly believed him last night when we talked, and was happy with the outcome, but this morning and receiving his email, it is as though we didn''t even hsve that conversation. One step forward 15 back xxx