FDR soon, but he's a narcissist - give me hope!

Trying to sort finances, and FDR is almost upon me. The other side has avoided giving correct info and lied every step of the way, and still full disclosure hasn't happened, lots of unanswered questions regarding undisclosed account, undisclosed business, unexplained cash purchases, spurious business valuations, etc, it's a mess, just too much to list here. Spent £££££'s on legal fees already.

I, on the other hand, have made full disclosure - but he doesn't believe it, and continues to ask ridiculous questions, which I can easily answer (I have nothing to hide). His big issue is that he wants me to disclose income and worth of my current partner, who I cohabit with, but I am unable (and unwilling) to do this - he was nothing to do with our divorce, in fact, he says if he's dragged in to it, he's off, and quite honestly, I wouldn't blame him.

How are we ever supposed to reach an agreement at the FDR based on the unknown? We have both made offers which, needless to say, are miles apart. I cannot see how this won't go to FH - is there any hope that all the queries can be brought to a head at the FDR, or am I dreaming? I'm prepared for the fight of a FH, but just want this nutcase out of my life asap so that I can come off my anti-depressants, so agreement at FDR would be better!

How do I go about getting him to pay the costs if it goes to FH - in my opinion, it's his fault if it goes that far due to his obfuscation tactics.

Please can anyone give me anything positive?

It's a court hearing so the judge can order some additional disclosure to happen and so on but they are not going to make an order on the actual outcome they will just give their opinion based on the facts in front of them.

Your partner who you cohabit with isn't likely going to be "dragged" in legally and it's his right to not provide information, however, the court will just assign some level of support they assume is happening as in you won't be treated as a single person if you are not a single person and this doesn't require his active participation.

I have recently gone to final hearing with my ex husband and forever narcissist. It has been a difficult and uphill battle with undisclosed income, delays and lots of sabotaging tactics to drain me of the little money I have. Stay on your course and be persistent and factual. Your solicitor has to push his solicitor to an effective FDR or may be able to ask if you could go straight to final hearing (maybe, not sure). I wish he will be exposed at some point but unfortunately these people are really good at hiding and making themselves look like the victim.

We had to agree to an adjournment of the FDR back in March, based on the fact that we did not have all the info to make the FDR effective. When FDR happened we had a lovely lady judge who was clearly not impressed by the way my ex had behaved, not supporting at all and not paying the mortgage of the family home for over a year and driving the home to repossession proceedings.... She said I should be getting 40-60% in my favour. WE offered 40% to settle without final hearing and he refused. At the final hearing another judge did not have the same stance as the Judge at FDR, it was scary.

The Final hearing ordered that I keep the home mortgage free with my child. They gave him 3 months to comply with the order. The possession hearing though is still threatening my home and I am veeerrrry suspicious that he will fail to pay the mortgage and lead us straight into the teeth of the bank - just out of spite. I know about narcissists. It is really hard to reason with these people but the only option is to keep with the facts, insist for what you want and you deserve to have.

I am certainly still going and fighting to secure my position. I cannot trust him of course so I have to try and protect myself and secure my home as best as I can. i am still looking into it and am hoping to get some advise here.

Best of luck.