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What does the law say about how to split the house, how to share pensions and other assets, and how much maintenance is payable.
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It will make no difference, the family courts very rarely pay any attention to whether people are telling the truth even under oath.
I speak as someone who has spent 7 years in almost continuous litigation with a vexatious ex. Every single statement they file at court is littered with untruths but whenever I've got close to flagging this up, they get emotional and the court moves things on.
The analogy I would give for contested family court hearings is if you have two young children squabbling, both saying the other one did something naughty. The judge is the parent who sighs, says they're not interested, and they should both go to their room without tea!!
Thanks TammyJ. Even with simple indisputable documentary evidence that proves your point the judges are rarely interested. I've had several examples where my ex has contradicted their own evidence within their own sworn statements!
That's not to say don't include this stuff in your statement - but just because something is outrageous and a clear example of the other party misleading court with supporting evidence, doesn't mean the judge will take notice or want to discuss it. So include some examples but consider not making it the central argument for your case. Have the evidence ready for the fortunate case that the judge does want to deep dive into one of your examples, but don't expect it! Good luck.
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