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The four basic steps to reaching an agreement on divorce finances are: disclosure, getting advice, negotiating and implementing a Consent Order.

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A Consent Order is a legally binding document that finalises a divorcing couple's agreement on property, pensions and other assets.

Agree Child Arrangements before Financials? (Tricky situation)

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Sammo69
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11 Apr 23 #520881 by Sammo69

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Hello everyone,
I'm in a bit of a stressful situation and any advice would be appreciated as I'm not sure which I should be going...
I won't bore anyone with all the details (yet) but the gist of the matter is this.
I applied for divorce last July after I found out my wife was being unfaithful. We'd been married 10 years, 3 kids ages 10, 8 and 5.
We were still living in the same house but my wife left with the kids one day to stay at her parents and I was served an NMO and occupational order. I moved out and have been renting a room since but I can't have my kids to stay overnight as I have no where for them to stay. I see them a couple days a week though.

Now we have to agree financial and child arrangements. I would like 3 nights a week the kids stay with me so would I need to get a Consent Order first stipulating that before trying to come to a financial settlement? I fear to sorting out finances first it will appear that the children live with her 100% of the time and I will have no standing at all it determining financial need. This will then inhibit my chances of obtaining a suitable property in order to care for my children?
It's so stressful and I really don't know what to do. I just want a fair future sharing the upbringing of the kids as I know that's what they want and what's best for them.
Any help appreciated.
Sammo

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