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12 Sep 09 #145875 by Trevor53
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I made a very generous offer to my ex before the fdr and it was rejected out of hand. Since the I have been put to considerable legal costs and we will be going to a final hearing in November.
Unless the courts are in fact totally biased againast men I can't see the ex getting a better deal than the one that I made, maybe even worse.I have an additional £14000 of debt plus I an now facing a potential £18000 legal bill. Short of giving the ex everything and making her own kids homeless I don't see what I can do.
Please no comments about how the courts put the kids first. I am sick of hearing this statement as it is clearly not correct.
Can I get the ex to pay the legal costs in view of the fact that she has dragged to divorce out for an extra 10 months for no benefit.

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12 Sep 09 #145877 by nbm1708
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You can request this from the court but only in very very very rare occasions do they award costs.

My ex refused to negotiate, racked up legal bills, and dragged it through to the final hearing and still each party paid their own costs. Mine were just much less as I acted as lip whereas she had both a solicitor and barrister all the way. In fact she enjoyed it so much a few months ago that she's going back to do it all over again as she didn't like the judges decsion (or 'offer' as she refers to it) first time round.

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12 Sep 09 #145883 by Trevor53
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It does make that oh so often repeated statement "the kids come first" a bit sick.

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12 Sep 09 #145885 by nbm1708
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Yep doesn't it just. To make matters worse we both have children pretty equally split between us and her only concern is for the children with her not our son who she never see's.

She ran up a HUGE legal bill, fell out with the solicitor and barrister (from what I can gather as all the paperwork isn't even in place from her side yet) and she's now applied back to the court acting as lip because she wants an increase as she's realised how little she's been left with.

Obviously if it continues I won't have a job and then do doubt she'll sqwark because she doesn't get her monthly money yet she's the one making it impossible with time off for court cases and putting together evidence, letters, defence etc.

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