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19 Feb 08 #14377 by Emalou33
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Just thouhght I'd let you know that I attended court this morning for Decree Nisi and the judge awarded costs against my husband. They had initially awarded against him as he committed adultery, but H solicitor then sent in a letter to the court saying that I had confessed to several sexual affairs throughout the marriage, a complete lie, I never committed adultery and did not want the marriage to end. i was devastated to read such lies and my solicitor responded accordingly. It seems the judge did not give much care to my husband's comments and also the fact that he earns double my salary, costs were awarded in my favour. Phew!! Massive relief as can't even afford a loaf of bread until pay day, and also - why should I pay when he was the one that left me for another woman, a fact he conveniently forgot to mention in his court letter.

Trouble is the love is still there, despite the lies he has told, and it is so hard to turn it off even after a year. He was my world.


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19 Feb 08 #14381 by BVG
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Hi Emalou, I know how you feel. I still love my X but in a different way now. She walked out on me after 33yrs. I eventually agreed to divorce her on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour not adultery. I didnt want to give her any more grief and I took the costs of the divorce.
A year has gone now and we are still fighting over the assets via the courts. I will to this day never understand what on earth happened.

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19 Feb 08 #14384 by Milhouse
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Its very hard to let go, but best to. I'm hoping to share the costs of the divorce with my ex. She is the one who left for someone else, even though she denys it. But she is living with him and has been since the day she left.

Move on, put the past behind you, close the chapter, the future is brighter than ever before.

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