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24 Apr 12 #326380 by jeanne15
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After 7 years of marriage my ex-husband walked out taking the family dog whilst I was out and leaving a cold note on the table. I had no inkling he was going to do this. I have since learnt that he had been seeing other women. He had transferred almost all our joint money into his sole account and left me here in France. he moved into a rented house in the UK. I am about to get the Absolute through on the divorce - he is not contesting it. I have been to two court hearings in the UK and made proposals for settlement and he has not answered any of them. At the second hearing, his barrister told mine that she had not even heard from him since the first hearing. The third court hearing is now coming up and money for me is very tight. My barrister says the court will not take account of what he has done i.e. my awful position of being left in the middle of the countryside alone with very little money and a huge house to maintain and pay all the bills on. This man has a bigger pension than me and does some part-time work as well although he has stated he is now going to retire. He has spent quite a lot of the joint money. Will I get back my half and will the judge take account of his bigger pension and his work? Any advice would help me.

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29 Apr 12 #327294 by jonathancj
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It depends on all the figures. What is going to happen to the French house?

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29 Apr 12 #327318 by jeanne15
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This delightful man is trying to say that this French house that is only half renovated is worth a great deal of money. I got estimates of what it would fetch from the local notaire who processes all the area houses (also is a government employee, so could not be biased in my favour) and two local estate agents who agreed with notaire''s valuation. he disagrees and the court says we have to have another joint valuation. I am fighting his choice of ''valuer'' as he wants someone who is not from the area and not even French and he wants to come back here with this person - very worrying!

In the first place, it was actually myself who bought the house originally and the ex put no money into the purchase. I misguidedly let him have his name on the deeds with mine. So he expects half from the sale. The marriage was 7 years duration and, according to the solicitor, he is due half of everything. Now by trying to say it is worth more than it is all he wants to do is to hand back his half of the house and none of the money he has stolen This would be a disaster for me as houses here are not selling and I cannot afford the cost of living here on my pension.

I have made proposals for a settlement involving his returning my money but he has not even answered them and has made no proposals himself except this business about returning with a so called ''valuer''.

This ex has more pension than me and also is still doing part-time work.

I am due for third financial court very soon, it is all extremely worrying. Any advice you have for me I would appreciate.

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