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Ex lied in court - can I go back to court?

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09 Jun 12 #335918 by Hah!
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1st post on this site, so Hi to everyone!

Ex dragged me through the courts for 2 years to get more money.

I''d offered as much as I could to enable me to stay in the house for the kids sake.

After a full final hearing, the order is essentially that the house be sold (unless I can raise the money, which I can''t) and he gets 33% of the proceeds.

All this was based on the fact that he said he needed enough to be able to buy a house to be close to the kids.

1 month later, and he''s told the kids he''s moving in with the new gf. He doesn''t need any money at all.

I''m furious, as he would happily make his kids move house and schools to get ''his'' money, when all the time he''s been planning to move in with the gf!

Can I take him back to court or is it just tough and I''ll have to suck it up?

Thanks x

BTW, not sure if he''s on this site or not, so if he is, *waves and says you happy now?*

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09 Jun 12 #335921 by jonathancj
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Courts tend to be very wet about this sort of thing. If it came back to Court, he''d just say he decided to move in after the hearing took place. Chances are that you wouldn''t be able to prove otherwise. In any event, one third/ two thirds is just about as far from equal division as a Court can be persuaded to go. Remember that the Court was depriving him in part of an asset which he owned.

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09 Jun 12 #335927 by Hah!
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darn it. thought so. Thank you for replying.

If I ever have to go through this again, I''m lying, cheating and delaying things as much as I can! It worked for him!

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09 Jun 12 #335929 by sillywoman
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Dont worry about it - its over now, hes out of your life and is someone elses problem!

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09 Jun 12 #335934 by Hah!
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he''s only out of my life financially. He still has the kids in wracking sobs every weekend, as he''s an emotionless robot. but hey.

still gotta sell the house, go back to court (as no-one can agree on what the judge actually said) and move the kids schools. Very tempting to say stuff it, and move to the other end of the country!

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10 Jun 12 #336001 by sim5355
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hi! i would be tempted to just sit tight and take my time at the end of the day he would have to take you to court and then you could tell them about the girlfriend why make his life easy.

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16 Jun 12 #337101 by Pammy1970
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You''re not alone if it''s any consolation. My almost ex husband is the same - an emotionless robot who uses the children to try and get at me.

Children are not daft, They soon work out who really cares for them.

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