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29 Sep 12 #358463 by QPRanger
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This MAY be a bit of a rant ;)

Get your husband arrested over a year ago on trumped up allegations and removed from the home that was bought and paid for every month with his money as you and your adult daughters don''t want to work. Make sure he is prevented in returning or contacting you for 4 months, until the ''charges'' are dropped.

Get legal aid, then ignore your husband''s solicitors letters to your solicitor for as long as possible. Get referred to mediation but then refuse to participate. Change solicitor when your solicitor loses patience with you. Get legal aid taken off you for non co-operation and self rep thereafter.

Force your husband to have to commence Ancillary Relief proceedings to try to resolve issues as you have ignored all attempts to contact. Fail to complete virtually ALL the required paperwork, refuse to provide proof of income, benefits, outgoings etc. Go to the FDR and draw sympathy from the learned judge by just repeating ''I don''t understand'' over and over again. Continue to refuse throughout the whole process to discuss, negotiate or compromise. Ignore the Directions given by the learned judge at the FDR completely.

At FH just lie. Repeatedly. The next learned judge will not question why you have failed to comply with any of the proceedings so far, nor ask you to provide ANY written evidence for anything. Take full advantage of self repping, using the tried & trusted ''I don''t understand'' line as well as how intimidated you are by the nasty barrister your husband has foolishly paid ££££S for.

The wonderful judge will let you keep the FMH indefinitely with no future trigger points despite both your daughters being over 18 (one of which MAY be in further education but the judge won''t ask for any proof of this). All you have to do is pay the arrears on the joint mortgage (with all the benefits and earnings you haven''t been asked to prove) and pay future installments on time. Oh, and give your husband''s car back to the finance company immediately: the car you have refused to return and kept for a year without paying any of the installments. If you don''t do these things the nasty judge says the house will have to be sold which is what your husband wants!

After this DON''T PAY the mortgage until court proceedings are issued by the mortgage company, and then pay when you want, not when the installments are due. And don''t bother returning the car, even when the finance company act on the Court Order made at the FH and try to repossess it (hide it until the heat is off then start driving it again).

Wait 3 months until your husband gets a Directions Hearing to enforce the Court Order and force the sale of the FMH as you have failed to comply. Happy days though: its the same judge who ruled in your favour last time! Get the mortgage uptodate and return the car just before the hearing. And bingo! The learned judge decides NOT to enforce the order as you have now done some of what you should have done, albeit very late! Your husband suggests that you have been naughty and have lied to the judge about your benefits and earnings but don''t worry: the judge STILL won''t ask for you to prove anything! He''s on your side!

Go home and relax in the house that you have been given, surrounded by the possessions that you have kept, and have a good laugh at how easy it has all been for you.....:angry:

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29 Sep 12 #358477 by Kazzabell80
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Uh oh! There''s nothing that I can really say to this, I am speechless!!

(((hugs)))

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29 Sep 12 #358480 by QPRanger
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Thanks Kazza. I know everyone on here will have their unhappy stories but I just needed to vent my utter frustration at how the whole court process has let me down. The thing that really hurts me is that my poor old Dad has a Deed of Trust on the property as he lent me a large sum of money to help buy the property and as it stands he won''t be getting it back. I feel so guilty for letting the woman I married do this to him and Mum.

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30 Sep 12 #358527 by sauri
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I find it quite scary actually!!!! this is what my husband is doing to me!!!! and you are saying it is working and you can not do anything about it?!!!

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30 Sep 12 #358534 by Serendipity100
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QP - also a Ranger fan!

Of course, you can rant as much as you like on here: have followed your posts and see what you''ve been through. The ranting is very much part of the ''healing''. Am well-overdue a massive rant myself! This is the beauty of this site - we all help eachother, no matter what we post or in what emotional state we are at.... roller-coaster ride for most of us! So we are here to pick up the dips and share the highs....

Sorry you feel the way you do at mo, though, QPR, but completely understandable after all you''ve gone through.

Suari - each case is different and individualised though you may identify with certain aspects of OP''s post.
Wish you luck.

QP - keep on going, and rant again if you feel like it!

Rangers Fan!

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01 Oct 12 #358710 by QPRanger
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Hi Seren: great to hear from another R''s fan! Looking forward to them finally winning on TV tonight (possibly).

And Sauri I''d like to think that my case must be a real rarity: a combination of evil, lying, manipulative stbx, weak solicitor, hopeless judge and of course a very naive me!

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01 Oct 12 #358715 by NoWhereToTurnl
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If only it was a rarity QPR, my exh followed that manual to the letter throughout divorce, AR and he is doing it again now. Its amazing how much they get away with and not even a slapped wrist.

You can bet your bottom dollar that it wouldn''t work for us though :(

Best wishes,
NWTT

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