Hello, was not sure of best place for this post. My stbx has stated she is not able to work more than 2 days per week due to medical issues (connective tissue, back problems). This relates to a past slipped disc and quoted ''fatique'' type problems. I am sure she is ramping up to bring this in as a substantial issue and as it is looking like we could end up going to court(hence posted here). However, her dating site statements says she likes hiking, sailing (a recent new hobby), pubs and bars(she can always manage to stay out very late for a social). Also I know she has been ''tubing''(I am told going down a dry sky slope in a rubber tyre) and generally getting involved in active participation. None of this is proveable though, other than the flimsy dating site statement.
How could this play out if she brings it into the mix, I just have to accept the court would say you cannot work more than 2 days a week or what can I do?
If she has genuine medical issues, then she will be able to substantiate them with medical evidence, GP letter, etc.
Why are you looking at her dating profile? No-one tells the whole truth on these things, they are always "over-egged" to make the person look more interesting and glamorous than they actually are
I was shown it rather than was looking, and it was a surreal thing to see for sure....uncomfortable!
Without going into too much detail, the nub of the issue is that I believe her medical issues are in the past and her social habits back that up. Lots of late night socialising and doing things such as sailing(participating not just for the ride) and active sports, all of which show the fatigue and back problem of the past is insignificant. However, she has continued to go to the Doctor and get medication and thereofre for sure will be showing as still having those issues, whereas I know but cannot prove that they are largely insignificant.
So really my original question was, if the Doctor says she has issues and he recommends that she does not work more than 2 days a week, does my and others personal knowledge that it is exagerated carry any weight at all or am I stumped?
I guess I would have to get pictures of her sky diving or something and do not fancy becoming a private detective!
From my understanding it's very difficult to prove that one \"can't work\" even the worst of disabilities does not stop one doing \"some kind of work\"
However it can limit the type of work and possibly how often one can do it without pain and discomfort or mental ability. Obviously there are individuals that in reality are unable to work so I am not disrespecting them. Just playing Devi's advocate.
If I was you I would take a copy of her profile and a little light detective work from yourself may pay dividends. In my experience people who do such sport or activities like to share. So look at Facebook. Maybe even a \"friend\" might respond to her dating profile ask a few questions if you get my drift. All is fare in love and war.
My ex was caught out in a similar way. Told me an expensive piece of jewellery had been lost and bragged about owning it to his potential date and was stupid enough to send a photograph. !!!