Thank you. It''s still early days so 24 hours on I''m finding it hard to think of anything positive at the moment. Hopefully in time my feelings will change. I don''t want to be angry and bitter forever but right now that''s exactly how I feel. I still don''t understand how I''ve ended up in this position. So it seems that not all wives take the husband to the cleaners. Certainly not in my case.
The thing I''m struggling with in my head is the ''what ifs..'' What if I''d argued the point a different way, what if I''d presented things differently... What if I''d had a different judge.. would any of these have affected the outcome? Obviously I''ll never know, but the answer is probably. I guess this battle has dominated my life for three years, it''s going to take time to move on completely.
What I will say is that my impression of English justice has radically changed for the worse as a result of my experiences in the family courts over the past three years. I now listen to stories on the news with a cynical perspective, knowing how judges and the courts work (or don''t work). There was something on the news this morning about new financial powers being implemented to tackle money laundering. Previously I would have thought "good - sensible approach to a real problem". Now my first thought is - what would a petty and incompetent judge be able to do to someone innocent with those powers?
Totally agree with you. The system is not fit for purpose. The judges don''t spend nearly enough time looking at the case summarys or listening to each
. My judge kept looking at the clock and seemed more concerned by time than anything else.