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4 years 6 months ago #477129 by hadenoughnow
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Trolley Dolley,

Just wishing you the best of luck for tomorrow. Remember judges have seen all this before. You have a child and you both need to be housed. You should also be getting a pension share as well as sm.

You don''t have to agree to anything tomorrow. Listen carefully to what the judge says. It is usually a good guide to what will happen at FH. Hopefully you will be able to agree a sensible settlement before getting all the way to f2f. But if you don''t, on the basis of what you have set out, he could be in for a very nasty shock.

Let us know how you get on.

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4 years 6 months ago #477176 by Trolly Dolly
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Hi Hadenoughnow well here I am just home from my FDR. To say I''m shell shocked is an understatement. My barrister was completely unsupportive and didn''t make any of the important points in his case summary that I asked him to. Basically I feel completely ''f**** over''. I''ve ended up with £900 spousal support, £900 child maintenance , no lump sum because he''s spent our savings, ran up debt and there''s no equity in the house. I got a small pension sharing order on the basis he claims the debts were marital which I dispute as I didn''t even know he had a credit card let alone 5!! I was completely railroaded into accepting and was told by the judge if I didn''t come to some agreement I''d be liable for his costs too. Absolutely bereft and astonished at what happened to me today. Especially as when we married I was the better of party. Absolutely nothing fair about what has happened to me today. I''m 45 and about to be forced into rental property after being a home owner since I''m 23.

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4 years 6 months ago #477182 by hadenoughnow
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Oh dear. I guess the trouble is if there are no cash assets then there is nothing to split :(. At least the maintenance is more than you had been offered. It is a small comfort but probably the best the judge could do.

What happened re the house? Are you able to hang on to it and use the maintenance to pay the mortgage?

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4 years 6 months ago #477190 by Trolly Dolly
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Nope the house has to go up for sale. You are right there are no assets but there is income. £12k a month to be precise. I am 45 and about to rent a house for the first time in my life without a hope of ever getting on the property ladder again. Meanwhile the stbx waltzes off into the sunset with Little Miss New Boobs and buys himself a house.

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4 years 6 months ago #477196 by s59
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But, and not that I am in any way encouraging this - that was an FDR right, not a final order? So are you going to settle or fight on? What did your barrister say afterwards?

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4 years 6 months ago #477200 by Trolly Dolly
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I had to settle. The judge gave his directions and my barrister told me that even if we went to FH a judge wouldn''t order anything vastly different. I have already spent £27k on legal fees including the FDR and was told that if I fight on I could lose and be forced to pay my stbx costs as well. I. Can''t pay my own costs let alone his so after hours of going back and forth I was advised there was no better offer forth coming. To be honest I felt my barrister though I was being unreasonable. So there we have it. An absolutely derisory settlement and there was nothing I could reasonably do to get a better one.

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4 years 6 months ago #477201 by s59
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Well I feel similarly robbed but I guess the way to win, and apologies for the cliche, is to focus on the positives and realise that the best aspect of it is that you are finally free of their negative ways and can move on with your own life and be happy :)Best of luck to you.

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