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Support for final hearing and divorcing narcissist

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2 years 9 months ago #498623 by Rach54321
Hi everyone,

Would anyone be willing to share any of their outcomes of a final hearing divorcing someone with narcissistic qualities?

My partner wants to split everything 50/50.

They are both of equal standing as both had jobs of similar salary however; he now has a business post divorce

No children involved (thank god)

It's been an extremely difficult and horrendous 2 years full of accusations and lies.

His wife has taken voluntary redundancy just before a final hearing date. Assume this is to try and reduce her earning capacity.

Any support would be more than welcome in such a difficult time. I now understand why people say that divorce is one of the most difficult things you can go through. I've been suicidal on many occasions and the feelings don't get any better.

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2 years 9 months ago #498735 by Donut99
I think that I have a narcissistic ex husband and had never heard of the term until a friend recognised the traits and told me to look it up. I am out the other end and 2 stone lighter with stress. I managed to stand my ground and not give in even though it was pretty relentless on may occasions and I felt physically and mentally exhausted. 2 and a half years later, even though incredibly difficult and stressful with sleepless nights and loads of self doubt brought about by their comments and actions, I do feel in a much better place and so glad that I stuck to my guns. To give in is exactly what they want. Even divorced, it can still be relentless but don't let them have that hold over you. Do not rise to the bait, keep conversations and communication to a minimum. There is no point 'explaining' as they will only hear what they want to hear, however irrational or illogical it is. The feelings WILL get better and you WILL be ok x

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2 years 9 months ago #498736 by Rach54321
Thank you so much for this : I feel so bad for my partner as he was abused during his relationship and now that he’s left her, the abuse is carrying on but it’s now in the form of control.

He has a very good solicitor so we are hoping that he gets the upper hand. It’s been almost 2 years for him at present. A final hearing date is imminent and we are truly hoping for the date within the next few weeks.

Hearing that you came out the other end is comforting. Sometimes we find the stress too much to bare. But we try to keep strong

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